h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Hej!

You know me best as the quiet egyptian wife of Rameses II... I'd like to welcome you to my normal user account, since I have "come out" with some of my issues (not all!).

I saw you're on the front page, but thought I'd let the stream of visitors ebb before I posted.

Hellooooo I was thinking about you on saturday night but I wasn't feeling very happy so I thought it best not to drop you a line. It wasn't thinking about you that made me unhappy, I hasten to add!

How's things? If you'd rather talk about some things elsewhere, I completely understand but I'm looking forward to getting to know you again. Well, getting to know a different side of you anyway.

They kept me on the front page for two weeks in a row- goodness knows why. If I had any visitors, they were very tidy and I couldn't even tell they'd been here!

Mainly very good - I make my own decisions now, and take my own consequences from them, but have stopped to second guess the wishes and moods of my husband.

I've had a few low times too, lately, more because of work, I think, but also for the lost relationship.

Am not particularly looking forward to the co-operation talk tomorrow morning.
He still puts his work before everything and everyone else - too busy to take son to therapy talk this morning, when kids were staying with him because I was on business trip, for example.

*tells self off: Stop the bitterness!!!*
*listens to self and tries to be cool again. Things really are better, in the big view*

It sounds like things *are* better when you take the bigger view and I think that's what matters. As I've said before, I've no concept of the difference that children must have on a relationship but I'm glad you seem able to differentiate the aspects of your relationship with your husband.

Sorry if I sound like too much of an amateur psychologist (who doesn't even know you properly!) but I get the impression that you can now separate his behaviour towards you and his behaviour towards them- rather than him just behaving as him. Does that make any sense?

Anyhow, I hope the talk went well. You must have loved him to have married him but never forget that people change and love changes. Look to the future and, if people and/or love seem like they have a place in that future then don't rule them out; shape them around yourself.

I feel like I sound like a dodgy self-help book now- and I'm sure I'm preaching to the converted- so I should probably shut my fingers!

Love your children, hold your head up high and... make yourself happy