h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I just wanted to drop you a note to say...well, I was actually going to ask about Sex; it said SExpert but I guess it's science expert.....but I think it's rude to drop by without at least saying hello. : )

Hello!

Yes SExpert does mean Science Expert. But as my specialist subjects are contraception and Sexually transmitted diseases, and I have an interest in psycho-sexual issues, that makes me a Sex SExpert y'seee...

Not that anyone's asking a question about my specialist subject - I do other medical queries as well..

ARE YOU

THE BRAIN SPECIALIST??

-GUMBY

(joke, joke. you watch monty python?)

So are you a doctor?
OK; sex-psyche stuff..........hmmmmmm.............if your desire is waning because you feel your partner is not living up to expectations but they are not living up to expectations because you are not interested in sex, how to you psyche yourself up to get over this vicious cycle without feeling like a tramp? I tried the getting tipsy thing and it sometimes makes me broody and no action, or if there is, I don't enjoy it anyway and feel cheap and I really don't feel any burning libido anymore............
any analysis?

New mown hay does it for some.

Warm sandy beach for others.

How do good actors make you feel sexy?

Eroticism and sensuality.

Try going blind fold and see if you can awaken your feelings.

Do you prefer to be the dominant one or the submissive one?

Look at your diary, look for a window of opportunity when you and your partner are at your prime, in terms of relaxation and willingness.

Take your time but dont take the wine-the only stimulants you should use are those that heighten not dull the senses (hence the blindfold!)

Talk your dreams alive, anything goes if the end (good sex) justifies the means.

Swim and exercise first get fit for sex. Set the scene according to your desires and TAKE YOUR TIME!

Hi SnowWhite honey, since goldencampus dropped into this convo, I felt less inhibited about joining in myself.

This is personal opinion, ok, but I think that in the relationships I've had which have really worked sexually, there have been two factors present. The first has been reasonable-to-good day-to-day communications, no Elephants in the Living Room that everyone steps around and nobody mentions. The second factor has been the time and space for a good sexual space, so that physical affection has spilled out of the bedroom; so that I take the time to get up from the book I am reading, and go over and kiss him on the forehead, for example. Or so that we share a bath and a couple of glasses of wine at the end of the day. Or just scraping a fingernail across the palm of his hand when we are walking down the street. Or sharing icecream in bed.

The point is that these displays of physical sharing and affection don't lead directly to sex, but they do expand the sexual space and your shared daily physical communication and playfulness.

What I am not sure of is whether this affection is a result of good sex, or whether good sex is a result of this relaxed affection. What I am sure of is that showing affection in other ways takes the pressure off sex. If cuddles don't mean that you have to put out, then cuddles are just - well - cuddles.

Dunno what else to say.

Take care SnowWhite, and good luck.

Ben

I just wanted to drop you a note to say...Hellooo to yooo

I just wanted to drop you a note to say... Hello (shyly)

I want to know good in bed? I have asked a hundred people this question and can not get an answer

Sorry 'good in bed'

i'm not very good at this 'what makes a someone good in bed'

Hiya,

Good in Bed?

Er Blush..

I'd say it's a very personal question 'what makes someone good in bed'. Everyone has a different idea of what they think makes someone good in bed.

Personally I think it is.

1. Caring that the other person is enjoying it.

2. being sensitive to what they want, and talking about it..

just great, thats just great. I thought i was going to finaly know the answer. sitting here with baited breath and hopeing not to get the answer 'dont eat crisps' nag nag nag

I would be prepared to bet that eating crisps doesn't feature very highly on anyone's list of what's good in bed..

ok thanks, was hopeing for a step by step guide actually, just goes to show what i know. xx

Well I could give you a step by step guide to 'how to be good at having sex with Z,' but that wouldn't be much use unless you planned on sleeping with me..

*looks interested*

What would be in your step-by-step guide to how to be good at having sex with Z?

B

*snigger*

Sorry, came over all 13 for a minute there.

Oh no, wait...

Morning lads, any chance anyone could help me again today, how do i get through this day with an boss that is in bad humour (again) cos he was drunk again last night. Getting to be a pain in the ... at this stage. i usually just keep my headphones on all day but he will be a lucky man if that hat stand is not part of him by the end of the day.