A Conversation for Bisexuality
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BenniBi Started conversation Nov 2, 2002
I was just about to write an entry about bisexuality and then I remembered - check to see if it has been done before. Quickly searched and came up with yours, top slot. I must say that whatever I was thinking of writing would have cowered behind the sofa compared to what you have written! A Brilliant article in my mind and I could not and would not have said it better myself!
Picking up on a point in your entry, I hate the way people seem to think that bisexuality doesn't exist, that there are only two very defined sexualities, homo or heterosexual. The best description for human sexuality that I have found is one that sees it as a sliding scale with those two previously stated lifestyles and having bisexuality in between these as a sort of half-and-half rather than a combination of the two (leading to a misconception of "bis are just greedy"). This sort of model woudl also explain why some people have 'homo or heterosexual tendencies', why some people seem to indulge only occasionally into a different sex than normal and how some people can seem to, possibly after a traumatic event relating to their sexuality, swing back and forth.
As a bisexual myself, I am lucky in saying that I am one of the few stated in your article that found out very early (16) and had no doubts about it - I suddenly realised this about myself and have never doubted it for a second. Lucky old me - poor people who have to go through months and years of indecision because of their sexuality, whatever way they swing.
Yours.
Ben Hill aka BenniBi
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Fragilis - h2g2 Cured My Tabular Obsession Posted Nov 25, 2002
Thanks for the feedback, Ben. I'm glad you enjoyed the article, and of course I agree with you -- about pretty much everything you wrote!
This entry should be featured on the front page of h2g2 as part of a project on "Sexual Orientation" soon. You can find the link to the whole project on my personal home page. Ta!
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BenniBi Posted Nov 27, 2002
Wowee, I looked at the project and I do like all that you have written there - very interesting I must say!
Thank you for those interesting articles, i especially liked the gender pronoun game article - it reminded me of this film I saw ages ago, about a comic-book writer who meets a lesbian and proceeds to woo her and then it all goes horribly wrong when he suggests, to calm the tide between him, his house-mate and his girlfriend, that they should all sleep together... quite a sad ending really... dya know which one I am talking about cos i would love to see that again.. hehe
brilliant writing and good luck with more!
BenniBi
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Fragilis - h2g2 Cured My Tabular Obsession Posted Nov 27, 2002
You're talking about "Chasing Amy." It was directed by Kevin Smith and stars Ben Affleck. More info is at http://us.imdb.com/Title?0118842
And yes, that's a case where the gender pronoun game gets used by a lesbian to disguise a straight partner from her lesbian friends. Unfortunately, it doesn't work as well with gay people. They've seen it all before -- or some of them have, anyway.
Thanks for the kind words, BenniBi.
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BenniBi Posted Nov 28, 2002
Hello again!
Thanks for the title and yes, it is used often in gay/lesbian circles whereas most straight people easily fall into the trap of normality!
Thanks again.
BenniBi
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