h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

As most of you know I've recently decided/realized that I'm probably bi and I have a ton of questions and I was wondering if you could answer them or at least show me a better place to ask them. He are some though not all of them. Is there anyplace other than clubs and bars were gay/bi people hang out because I hate bars and am not that hot on clubs(at least from what I know of them I haven't actually been to any sort of dance club before). What exactly are pride event like(I heard them mentioned in an earlier thread). I had a ton more earler today but forgot them as I started typeing.

um hello anyboby here, I know my questions are kinda trival but I'm really confused about this sort of stuff in genral so please help

I'm here, but I do not have the required knowledge to answer your question.

I'm here too... But ggain don't know relaly any answers... I've not ever been to a pride event, in some way I think its probalby not my 'kind of thing'... I've been to a fair few gay bars/clubs, which vary a lot but generally don't do any decent real ale/beer, so they're not the first point of calling for me if I'm going out they vary a lot, useually found them pretty friendly places

I've only been to one- Birmingham, UK c.2005 - and it was very loud, colourful, with lots of people, lots of drinking... and I skulked away quietly because I didn't know anyone. It was nice to get caught up with the criwd, but I'd say you really need to go with friends (not just gay friends, straight frineds with open minds will do just as well. )

Also, some of the clubs/bars I've been to I think have particular 'tehemed nights and such like... again I'm just an old grumpy git really and so its not necessarily my 'scene' When I lived in Manchester we used to go to one gar bar in particular a lot, down by the cannel street area I guess, mainly because unlike all the 'regular' clubs nearby they didn't charge entry, and they served a drinkable decent beer (which was a lot cheaper than the other clubs round the corner), and a group of us, err, mainly straight people I think would go there

Thanks allot seriously. It really helps to know you guys don't know. As stupid as it sounds I think I sub or really semiconscious thought that as soon as I released that I sorta liked some people of my own gender that I would magically receive a magical manual of gay and bi stuff that I just somehow lost of something.

There is no manual, and that's why it is tough. Mind you, there's no manual for straight people either, but there's just more of them to help each other through it.

The big thing to rememeber is that we are no different to straight people- we just aren't the accepted norm. We're going to find relationships just as hard work as anyone else.

If there is a local group you can find, join it. You may not like every single person there, but you can at least find a couple of people who you like, or who have similar experiences or needs to you, and you can gain some feeling of solidarity. Because humans don't like to feel alone, do we now?

>>As stupid as it sounds I think I sub or really semiconscious thought that as soon as I released that I sorta liked some people of my own gender that I would magically receive a magical manual of gay and bi stuff that I just somehow lost of something.<<

That's not stupid - I had that thought too. Can't be any help with your question either, I'm not really a scene sort of person, I just go out to the occasional club.

Hey IRBSAL across the country there are groups were gay and bi people hang out to share all manner of mutual intersts sports clubs, pursuits etc. See if there is a local LBGT website/group that may be able to direct you any of these that may interest you if you do not like the bar and club scene. There may also be a LBGT group offering support and friendship.

As for Pride I've never been to one. Yes being bi is part of who I am, even if I know acknowledge I'm at the gayer end of the spectrum, but I don't feel the need to constantly shout off about it, although some of my blog postings would seem to suggest otherwise.

Hope that helps for now.

I've sort ta been looking but I'm moveing in less than a month so

How can you tell if someone else is gay or bi.

You can't really until they tell you - all this talk of gaydar is ultimately nonsense. Even things like being in a gay club, dancing very well and being surrounded by other blokes might not tell you if a guy is gay or straight.

A housemate of mine used to love coming out to gay clubs with me and having a dance. He was very, very good looking so he got a lot of attention, which he loved, but he was completely straight.

That said if a guy starts kissing you, that's a pretty good giveaway

Umm, yeah, although I have seen guys with t-shirts on which tell you what they like, rhymes with dock, which is a fairly good indication of their homosexuality.

I think that would indicate the opposite in who I'm thinking of(I suspect a female friend of mine is lesbian)

Well, you can get similr shirts saying "Shh! No-one knows I'm a lesbian." If she wears one of them, it might be a clue.

Though, that said, I have one of those shirts.

I want one of those!

"That said if a guy starts kissing you, that's a pretty good giveaway"

Actually not always check the alcohol level first. Ask Pastey or Babel. It was a tradition at the good old meets that one or the other or both would snog me at some point in the evening. Didn't make either of them gay or bi.

That is true. I seem to remember a fun meet with Njan, Nyssabird, The Guy with the Brown Hat and myself in a corner for a short while- both straight men and the two bi girls enjoying the fact that gender didn't matter for a while. h2g2 meets + alcohol tend to make lines blurr on occasion. Not that they have recently, now I think of it- that was a good five years ago and I haven't been to a meet like it since. Hey ho.



Simply put there is no easy way. It's a matter of getting to know people and finding out the old fashioned way. It's like trying to find someone who's a swimmer, or a roleplayer, or into BDSM or camping in forests or playing the piano- you can't tell just by looking.

For instance I don't play the piano...