h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

My rant was intended as a guide for action. I of all people know how hard it is to actually do all the stuff you're supposed to in this situation (numbers of times i've done this properly = 1). I guess what I'm trying to say is that i know what kind of rut you're getting into, and all i can say is you have to get out of it, and if that means you have change as a person then so be it. I know that sounds rich, but life sucks and I'm a bitch. I suppose what I'm really getting at is I see a lot of myself in you, and I'm trying to get you to avoid the mistakes I've made .... not that I've really learnt from life in any practical way, but what the hey.

I have to agree witth Spanner Grrl - these sorts of situations are all about projecting - you get all wrapped up in a person to the extent that you can't interpret anything they do other than in either negative or positive terms. In the end you start devaluing them and yourself because the relationship takes on this twisted one-dimensionality. I don't know about the internet specifically, but it certainly happens one to one.

.... just took that test. I'm an INFJ too. Guess I wasn't projecting we i said that we were similar types, eh? Now I'll go and find out what it all actually means.

sorry I'm being such a downer. I've been spending the week evaluating my life and working 10hour days - not a good combination.

#1 ... better than a kick in the teeth.

#2 ... a rollercoaster ride. You have your spectacular, towering highs and your swooping, depressive lows. You leave exhilerated. Would you rather be watching it fly past or ride it out and feel ill for most of it.

Most importantly you ought to feel eager enough to want to get on it again.

No bitter retorts please!

hmmmm i'm an INTJ - don't laugh mr the red!

reinvent yourself (to a greater or lesser event) every time you get stuck in a rut - it can hardly hurt. okay, well maybe, but if you don't try you'll never know.

did that make sense?

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Mmmmmmmm......

Temperament = Artisam :SP
Variant = Operator : ISTP

Weired, not like me at all, NOT!!!!

You should become a counsellor. You have written some of the best advice I have ever read right here in this forum. Unfortunately a lot of it is not what you want to hear when you're trapped in the evil clutches of unrequited love. As with most things, the hardest part is admitting you've got a problem, then finding the courage to do something about it. But your postings are excellent, and they've helped me to wake up and smell the coffee. Thanks!

INTP as well

I think I was an INTF, or was it... damn, I've lost the bit of paper... and my mind! Did seem pretty accurate for me, whatever it was! Must depend on how honest people are though.

Erm, we seem to keep drifting, don't we?! Love is...


...going to a Celine Dion concert because your SS likes her, and not committing heinous acts of violence!

'sus

'Sus, thats Love above & beyond the call! You win a prize!

H&K
Z

i appear to be an ESFP, artisan performer. sounds lovely, but i'm not sure about the performer.
i think (most of the time) i'd rather have massive highs + dark empty lows than dull, safe, quiet stability (tedium?). it's gets intolerable when there is more darkness than fun though.

Earplugs are an easier option!!

You're very kind Zed, but I could NEVER love anyone THAT much! Actually, I don't think I could love anyone who thought that CD has a nice voice!

Love is...

...a nice warm feeling inside. *ooh, I think I may be getting the hang of this at last*

'sus

Well, this time around I've come in at INTP...I guess I've mellowed since my INTJ days (or burned out).

Love happens. Sometimes (often?) when you're not expecting it. The problems in my experience have revolved around instances where it went one way and not the other. Fortunately, that doesn't describe my current reltionship.

To those still looking: don't give up, but don't obsess. Some day the right person will come along and you'll be glad you didn't try to force the wrong person.

Hmmm... I do think love happens when you don't go looking for it. But what if you don't realise til it's too late? On the other hand... perhaps he wasn't the right one... but I shall never know. But looking on the bright side of that equation... my 'love' will never become jaded and disappointing... just unanswered...

'sus

May I humbly suggest that we remove to another forum? Love is for... http://www.h2g2.com/forumframe.cgi?forum=356&thread=27869

'sus

Love is...

...a welcome cause of problems.
...often the solution, as well.
...a beginning and an end.
...something that can only be desribed while speaking in riddles.
...best when it doesn't need to be described.
...not a spoon.
...3? Really? I guess it could be. I think two is probably easier, though.
...a noun and a verb.
...the simplest and most complicated thing.
...something that can be neither taught nor learned. It can only be found.



...the answer to life, the universe, and everything.
...fo(u)r two.
...the question.

actually i can't take much credit - a friend of mine has been beating such lessons into my brain for a while. Anyway, i think counsellors have the same problem i do - living by their own good advice.

but we have digressed. The subject, i do believe, was love, and it is ....

.... those funny little knowing smiles you exchange across crowded rooms.

...i'm thinking of.

ROXY MUSIC!!!!!!!!!

... the only real form of telepathic communication.

You know I have always had this feeling that girls keep weeping and crying nights just because the other gender
exits. And I also had the feeling that it doesn´t work like this the other way around. But it seems to me that
there might be boys still having a kind of capability of being able to love. Or is it still not the same kind of feeling?
Do you actually love, or just fancy her? Do boys realize the difference between oxigen, hidrogen and water?
(to understand this you should read the guide entry "question".
If you know the difference that will make my day!!

I can't find the article, but I can assure you: we have the capacity to love. Just ask my girlfriend. Sorry, that may have made things worse...

If you want an example of love, howsabout DD and Ginger?