h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I agree with MoG that feelings of jealousy are rooted in feelings of insecurity and feeling very vulnerable and/or threatened.

Sometimes these threatening feelings are unfounded in relation to what is actually going on - in which case one needs to work through those feelings and not take them out unfairly on the other person.

But if there are real reasons for feeling threatened then TALKING is the only thing that will help. Of course the 'trick' is being able to talk about specific issues without dragging in all sorts of other past stuff that doesn't have anything to do with the present situation.

Are you sure it's jealousy, Serephina? Any other emotions going on with that - ie. feeling hurt, angry, neglected, envious?

Meanwhile, although jealousy tends to be a very negative emotion and, as Ivan says, a waste of energy and mental resources, just denying your feelings probably won't help.

I think what most people call 'jealous' is actually a whole bag of emotions - if you boiled it down to the 'real issues' you may find you're not actually jealous at all. Maybe just feeling left out or not appreciated, for example.

Collins English Dictionary definition of jealous:

1. suspicious or fearful of being displaced by a rival
2. resentful or vindictive esp. through envy

Well, just a few thoughts on that . . .

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