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But what can you say to the perfect girl, when she's afraid that it will last forever? Which is probably true. But everyother person on the planet is afraid of things NOT lasting.. Why is she afraid it will??

Thanks people.

Regards Daniel

Hmmm, that does seem like a strange thing to worry about. You haven´t mentioned the M-word have you?

Well, I suppose you could tell her that you´re only after her body and you´ll dump her as soon as you find someone fitter. Would make it seem like it won´t last. But I guess that´s not really what you´re after. What does she say when you mention it?

These things take a little time, Dan. Fate will sort things out, as it usually does. If you were meant to be together, then you will be.

Take it easy and enjoy life with your girl. Treat her as you would expect to be treated. Good luck.

"Auntie" Icy

Thanks for the ideas (however useless one of them is ). She's definatly worth waiting for...

Cheers Daniel

When I met my special person, he was quite quickly quite sure that this was IT, the biggy, true love and soulmates and eternity. Charming as this was and as much as I loved him, I was rather freaked out. He was Mr Right, but I was young (we met when we were 17) and the thought of only ever dating him for the rest of my life and not being allowed to check out anyone else really wound me up. Not because I WANTED to run around having sex with other people, I loved him and wanted to be with him. But feeling rushed into together forever is very frightening. And some of us come from multiply divorced families and have no faith whatsover in true love at first sight and have to wait until we do feel safe and trusting before we can say important things like 'I love you' and 'Lets move in together' and 'Will you marry me?'. Luckily my Mr Right had the good sense not to push it and though he said 'I love you' first, I said the other two, when I was good and ready, after we'd been together for respectively five and eleven years.

So, even if she is Miss Right and you are Mr Right, rushing her will freak her out and achieve precisely zilcho. Wait. Don't demand to be told if she loves you/ sees a future with you/ wants to do the M word. Tell her you love her, that you think she's the one, then wait. She may make you wait eleven years for the ultimate commitment moment, but you will know then that she means it to her very marrow and isn't being flustered into anything and will end up resentful and wanting out again.

And it's not like my Mr Right didn't get a devoted, loving, and faithful girlfriend while he was waiting.

hmmm! In these days of reduced fertility one might end up waiting too long.

It depends what one expects from life as to how long one might want to wait.Time is not always on one's side.As they say you just don't know what's around the corner.Accidents,disease have a tragic way of rearing up to confront one.

Incog.

You say you have enough faith for both of you that things will work out however scared she feels about it..........if its meant to be then it will. If you make a bond with someone that is right then you will both feel the pull towards being together regardless of what fears and insecurities get in the way. Often its that bad times that are the most telling....after all if you still want to be together when things are tough then its a good sign.

I think you should be careful with the "If it´s meant to be, it will" attitudes. For one thing because I think it´s wrong, and also because that seems to be what scares her. She probably feels a bit imprisoned by the idea that she might be with you for the rest of her life, even if she wants to. The idea of just being with one person for that long is rather scary, she probably would like to be with a few more people. How old is this girl?