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Envy and friendship
Beyond the Horizon Started conversation Jun 18, 2003
Can they live together ?!!!! 
I knew my best friend from not less than 6 years when we where in the same class at the school, we had so many common features which made us really close friends, but perhaps the most dangerous feature was that both of us is VERY competitive in achieving the higher marks in our study as well as in many other things.
As the time went on I discovered how I can't easily accept being inferior to my friend and that this was his opinion too. As a result. we were driven into competition so hardly that :
1.it put an unbearable tension on us esp. in the already tense time of exams. It happens this way : If you study well you may not see that if your friend has done better or at at least you think he has , if you get high marks it may not seem this way if he gets the same marks or higher.
2.this leads to some tension and uneasiness in our relationship in those times when you should be cocentrating on your study.
3.the worse , it evolved inside our subconscious into the desire that each other one would fail a little so the other would be the best, that was the result of our close levels of achievement
I know I'm really ashamed to tell that but this IS the truth , now he is my best friend , the one really close to me, we shared so many experiences, good or bad ones, together. We are really happy talking or doing anything whatsoever when we can forget this ugly competition.
What do you think as a solution ? so many told me you should hope the best for your friend . Well, I do but ... 
Did anyone experience such feelings even to a small extent ,this would help lower that feeling of guilt
Thanks for reading
BTH
Envy and friendship
Collif Posted Jun 18, 2003
Hey,
Don't worry about it! A little friendly competition helps a friendship in my opinion. Me and my friends fight/argue/compete all the time. It took me a while to dobut I learned to just not take the results of the arguement (e.g. the winner) seriously. Big deal if they got better than you, you learned something out of it.
Hope my advice helps!
-Collif
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