A Conversation for Talking Point: Making Friends

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Post 1

EncyBass-: Not going to be around much next week, cos I've got a new job...

Dunno why, I've always just found it easier to get on with women than blokes. I suppose it's because they're less confrontational or something, but I just tend to enjoy their company more.

Make sense to anybody else?


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Post 2

antgirl_DEV

I used to think I got on better with blokes, as I used to have more bloke mates, but as I've got older things have evened out a bit more. Blokes seemed easier to get on with than girls, but I think I suffered from post-all-girls'-school fear where the other girls could be really catty and mean.

Now everyone seems just as difficult/easy to get on with!


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Post 3

Marj

blokes definitly easier
women are too complicated . . .


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Post 4

Researcher 221083

hiya how u doing i read ur wee note ,and i agree i think that men are much better to get on with,i have alot more guy pals than i do girl pals,they seem to be more easy going and a better laff to have on a night out sometimes,so yea i agree with u totally on that one


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Post 5

Brendan

I know what you mean - they certainly make superior conversation and are better listeners. Women seem to have more intesting and diverse opinions, whereas a lot of blokes only talk about football or television.




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Post 6

Uncle Ghengis

Sorry. Don't know anything about football or television...


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Post 7

snazoo

For me, I get along better with guys than girls for the same reason: more interesting conversations. Girls talk to girls about boys and clothes, which gets dull pretty quick.

I do have some close girl friends, but there the kind of girls that get along better with guys, too.


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Post 8

HarpoNotMarx (((2*1)^6)-6-(2*8)=42

As a bloke who went to an all-male school, I was totally underprepared for the number of women I met when I got into the real world. As a result of trying harder in the first 6 months, I've found for the last 24 years I get on better with women than blokes. Less competitive in terms of I've got a turbocharged f*nny magnet and I make £75K etc. Most of the women I've met are more into humour than material wealth, even though some of the folding stuff helps make life bearable.


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Post 9

Mothwing

with me it's exactly the other way round - all my close friends are female, and they're infinitely better listeners than the male friends...!
They are interested in everything and everybody, and it's also possible to discuss little trivial topics with them- as well as everything else from the big bang to amoeba to literature to Star Trek or DW novels


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Post 10

shaggenstein

I have always found myself making more women friends. Guy friends are great for the regular everyday conversation. But if I want a deeper conversation about life, love etc.. it tends to be with a girl. Women tend to be better listeners, and more responsive to your emotions, where as men tend to be more sarcastic about emotional situations. I know I am guilty of that.


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Post 11

Collif

Hey

Personally I have more guy friends than girls friends and I find the guys are better conversationalists. Sure the girls are better listeners and they care about your feelings more but they arn't deep thinkers, or so I find. my guy friends just seem to think deep more often.


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Post 12

natrel

i'm a lady or should i say i a ladette. i have plenty of male/female friends but i do find it easier to get on with blokes because they are straight forward and if they've got a problem they came straight out and tell you and don't beat around the bush like us girls. you don't have to try and guess what the problem is. saying that though, my girlie mates are my mates and i wouldn't be without them. they act like blokes sometimes! downright bloody rowdy after a few vodkas and red bulls!


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Post 13

Mothwing

All my female friends are twice as deep thinkers as any of the blokes I know. With them, it generally boils down to soccer, drinking, spending the night out, having been drunk in the past, girls, past girlfriends, Uni and TV after ten minutes... well, ok, after half an hour.


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Post 14

natrel

this message is addressed to colli f who has written the biggest load of bollox i have ever heard in my life you sexist git! women aren't deep thinkers or good conversationist .......... what??????? what women have you been chatting to buddy? not all of us are into shopping, clothes etc. well ok most of us are but i like to get really deep sometimes especially after the herbal remedy!


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Post 15

Buzzbitt - Keeper of The Sacred WOOF and Terminal Nuisance to Small Sheep

i have more guy friends than girls but i seem to have a habit of ending up hanging around with girls. Dunno if i prefer girls to boys but i suppose guys tend to do more active dumb stuff so after that i usually relax and end up messing about with the girls to a lesser degree.


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Post 16

Buzzbitt - Keeper of The Sacred WOOF and Terminal Nuisance to Small Sheep

and i'd like to make a comment to loads of sexist people i encounter - it is perfectly alright to have a female best friend if ur a guy! People these days can be so judgemental smiley - tongueout


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Post 17

Collif

natrel

I'm not being sexist! I was just saying from personal experience. I did say I do not have a whole lot of female friends and they just don't seem to be deep thinkers. That's all. And by not good conversationalists I mean about "deep" subjects, I should have made that clearer. But at any rate I meant no offense. I was in no way being sexist. That just the way it happens to be with the people I know!

Collif


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Post 18

Prideth - Queen dragon - protector of otters, and otternuts alike

smiley - sorry to bring it down to base level, but there is a good reason why we get on better with the opposite sex - biology smiley - winkeye

I don't mean to be flippant, but we tend to naturally compete with the same sex, and conversely, try to impress the opposite sex.

Plus, I think it has been found, that the less genetically alike we are, the easier we get along with each other - opposites attract. While it's great to talk with someone who's interested in the same things as ourselves, it's actually more fun learning about new things from someone who has different interests.

As you can probably tell by now, I'm a girl who has more guy pals than girl pals, for the above reasons, plus the fact that I've always been a bit of a tomboy.

Prideth smiley - dragon


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Post 19

Dinnerlady [The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom]William Blake. Top lad:)

I must admit to being pretty amazed at some of the stereotypes being written here - I reckon that your friendships are actually a reflection on you - if you think blokes are shallow, that's probably because you never share anything deep with them, if you think women are better listeners, it's probably because you only ever allow yourself to express your feelings with women, and vice versa.

I have great friendships with lovely people of both sexes, some of whom I share deep thoughts, some of whom are more of "natter over a pint" friends, but I can honestly say that the type of things I talk about with them depends on our relationship and sometimes how we know each other, more than their or my gender.


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Post 20

Terry Teadreg

I agree with you, Dinnerlady!
There's all kinds of friendship, each one of an unique flavour determined by the two personalities involved. This is not necessarily depending on the gender, although there are very basic differences in the way the female and male brain work. And that may lead to different types of friendship.

There's one aspect of opposite-sex friendships that I haven't seen in the discussion so far. In my experience people seem to feel the need to comment on them or criticise more often. If I tell someone at work that I've been to the pub with my friend Lizzy (one of the most wonderful persons I know ánd an ace drinking companion!), there's always these sniggers and sneers, like "ooh, having a bit on the side, are you?". I usually do not bother to answer, but sometimes it really p**ses me off. Why does nobody care if you tell 'em you've been out with a bloke (I could just as wel be bisexual and have a bit on the side with my mate Robbie and no-one would know!) and always moan when I have been seeing (or, worse, have been seen with) a friend of the female persuasion?



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