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I need to moan to someone, and the people I was gonna call are still at work doing the crap that I want to maon about!

So just bare with me on thi splease until my mates get home and I can call one of them.

I love my job and I want to succeed, but I have managed to wind myself up over something that I would not have normally bothered about.

Moral support needed.

I am working on this thing at work (I work with kids) it's a project to help them boost their attainment. I am working on it with someone else. This person is a lot more experienced than me and I feel almost inferior to them.
I hope no one I know uses this site.

I feel I am always a step behind.
I was ok with it but by thinking about I have wound myself up to breaking point!
Do I say anything?
Do I request extra working time to plan with the other person?
Do I ask for more money as I am spending more time there than I am paid for?
They are really good to me and I do not want to cause any problems.



I need a

Hope everyone else's day was ok.

Amanda out.

Big & moral support here anytime, Amanda! Don't , luv, it's not worth getting that worked up over! I would certainly seriously consider asking for more working time, to plan with the other person! And that would probably mean a bit of an increase in pay, too, wouldn't it?

But try not to worry too much about that kinda stuff, I mean, there'll probably always be situations where you feel at least slightly inferior, but the thing to remember, is that the other person just has more experience than you do. It's not a reflection on you at all, luv, ok. Have a pint , & a (or, for that matter), a whole bleedin' bouquet, alright. And just calm down a bit, it'll be ok, it's not anything that can't be dealt with .

You are so kind.

It's all just going over and over in me head.
I am gonna give my mate Sheila a while to get in from work and get settled and I am gonna ring her. She has been doing the job since before I was born. She gives me good advice.

Thanks for that.

Amanda

Ok, no problem, Amanda

AMANDA.
here's a and a for ya!
so, you're being expected to work at the efficiency of someone else with more experience? if he/she is better at it, that doesn't make you 'inferior'. it makes you less proficient because you aren't as experienced
if i was you, i might

just kidding. i would tell whoever needs to be told about it and ask for more time if you need it so you aren't so stressed !

hey, it helps to vent, doesn't it!

peteY out!

Hey, it does help to vent.
I did not fone my friend in the end, I have been to the gym and run 3K and cycles 3K. Did a few weights as well.

I am alright now. The relevant people will be told tomorrow.
(if I can pluck up the courage)

Amanda out

good workout!
about plucking up the courage. remember that ASSERTIVENESS is respected. passivity is NOT.
so, BE ASSERTIVE and they won't be upset with you. they will respect you!

love your flap jak link btw.
that was adorable when you said that you happend to be eating one and saw that URL on the package

peteY out

What can I say?
I am

I have eaten my last flap jack today and so will have to get some more at the weekend.

Assertivness! I can be assertive.
I can, I can, I can, if I tell my self enough times, maybe it will come true.

I wanted to run for longer at the gym, but I ate too much pasta earlier and it felt as though it was lodged somewhere. Will have to be more careful next time. (there is no smiley for pasta)

Assertive. ok.

Amanda out

are you addicted to flap jaks?

good luck being assertive tomorrow!
say something like this,
"hey, what the F**k?! i have no F**king time to do what i have to do... this other b!tc# has f**king way more experience than me...no F**king way i can go as fast as her! now, give me more F**kin' time before i get violent on your @$$! "

and if you have a large sharp object at home...


hope your pasta has dislodged

peteY out

Yeah, great work ou1, Amanda! You go girl!! And, good luck, tomorrow I know you can be assertive enough, ok.

'T'

I was not at all assertive
I blew it.
I went to a colleague and she was really helpful and told me to go and do it, and still I did not.
I am very annoyed with myself.

VERY annoyed.

Amanda

Amanda,

don't be too hard on yourself
i have a similar problem.
get this...i started call tonight at 8 pm. well, the resident who was finishing his shift dumped a pt onto me at 8 pm even though this pt got to the ER way before 8.
but, me, being an invertebrate [spineless], just saw the pt without saying anything to that mother F***ker

so, it seems that you and i both need to work on becoming more aggressive!

we need to practice saying stuff like, "F**K this" and "F**k that!" and "No F**King way!"

peteY!

Well, peteY, maybe not in those exact words, but 'Out Loud', not just in the back of your (or, in this case, Amanda's) mind!

But, don't be too rough on yourself , Amanda, even I still have a bit ot trouble, in that area - I'd just rather not make waves, ok, so I get the ****ty end of the stick , *sigh, & roll eyes* it could be worse!

Fortunately, I don't usually have too much trouble that way, but, it's kind of a 'pain...', when it does happen.

hey, "jazzedupcurry..."

haven't really spoken to you before, but any friend of amanda's is a friend of mine

i was thinking, the thing that makes me totally and is when i think that i've been screwed... i hate it when other people infringe upon my rights

anywho, i'm gonna hold a grudge against that ER resident for a long time

PeteY out!

ok, peteY!!

Dear oh dear.

We all need to be more assertive don't we?
I will try next week.

PeteY? You know you say 'anywho'?
We say 'anyhow'

Weird or what.

Manda

my dad let EVERYBODY walk all over him. he was too much a people pleaser. nobody respected him for being such a pushover.
that's my excuse.
i always strive to be more bad a$$ though

"PeteY? You know you say 'anywho'?
We say 'anyhow'"

Manda , i saw 'anywho' for comic effect actually
'anyhow' and 'anyways' is much more common and proper over here, too!


peteY out

I am sorry.

I am thick

Anywho, I am off now.

Manda