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I have recently been dumped by my (ex)girlfriend and it can as a bit of a surprise but now i dont know weather to be angry, sad or what because of the reasons she gave. any advice would help. thanks

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Right, all that out of the way, let me give you a and my sympathies. Being dumped isn't pleasent. Theres not much you can do though unfortunately, and as for how you feel..you'll prolly flip from one mood to another for while. The best thing to do is just get on with things as best you can , get some new interests n friends, etc..It 'will' stop hurting

Traveller in Time on his head
"Concentrate on something else, make use of the opportunity of little obligations to expand your knowledge and or skills "

Thanks, i keep jumping in and out of every emotion and its crazy but has to end some time. thanks again

It is hard when you're vascillating between "good riddance" and "what the "... the best thing really is to get on with better things and failing that remember the best revenge of all is for you to thrive then her to one day run into you and see just how much better off you are without her..

Oh, you poor soul. It hurts like hell & there's no escaping that fact. It may help to keep a journal, most of us on here are sympathetic folks & you can whinge, rant,, indulge in nostalgia, whatever & almost certainly someone will come wandering along to lend a sympathetic ear & shoulder to on.

Writing it all down does quite often help "get it out" & allow you to reflect on what went wrong. It's NOT all your fault, that's for certain. It's NOT all her fault either (though at certain stages it may help you to proclaim that it is; that's perfectly normal; just don't say nasty personal stuff on a public site obviously)

Yes, later, do try & get some new interests unconnected with the Ex, go out & socialise with other mates, but for now you probably just feel like licking your wounds & retiring to a small dark cave.

helps, as does etc in reasonable doses (don't fall into the "drowning your sorrows" trap, but a little anaesthetic in early stages certainly helps.)Give yourself lots of little treats, preferably things that she wouldn't approve of!

It's a very good sign that you came on here & actually said "Waaah, i've been dumped!" Brave person, communicative person. I bet it won't be long before you are snapped up by a new love!



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