h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I'm so sorry. Sympathies to you and your family.

Hon, if there is something after this world, he's in a better place. If there isn't then at least he is out of pain.

Remember the good times. He would want that more than anything.

You know where I am, as always.

EV if it's any consolation, I didn't go see my grandma when she was in the final stages either. I couldn't bear it. I had so many memories of school holidays spent with her and I wanted to keep those intact. My mother also offered me to go see Gran in her coffin, just before the funeral, which I also declined.

You're entitled to keep your memories and don't go feeling guilty, it wouldn't have made any difference to them, but you have the rest of your life to live with your memories.

Twenty years down the line I don't regret my decisions then.

Now I'm facing the same thing with my father, I do what I have to but can't wait to get away and am finding myself not looking forward to going round to their home for the first time ever. They need me though, so this is different. I still can't help the feelings though, and the tension is unbearable. I'm 50 years old and feel like a 15 y.o. schoolgirl, scared to death of losing her Dad but knowing it'll be the best thing for him, sorry for your loss

Don't know what to say EV except to say it is one of the lessons of life.

Having buried three grandparents by the time I was your age, as well as various uncles, aunts and great-uncles and aunts and one cousin I can assure you it is something you learn from.