h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I used to be absolutely terrible with all things female. I couldn't make eye contact or even hold an intelligent conversation.

Not now, of course. Because I became confident. Even if the women weren't flocking to me, so what? - I knew I had what it takes to satisfy any one of them.

If you believe in your own good qualities, and let the ladies know that you are very self-confident, they will flock to you in droves. They love a man with a bit of arrogance - hence my three offers in the last week.

Get it on.

Way to go, Data! Unfortunately, as a woman, I can't really comment - except to say that when I try the Confidence Trick (female style) it does work! So Kudos to you, and may you always be a love-magnet!

x x Fenny

Data, Fenny is right, confidence works. As a man, I try to walk into the room like I own it.
A friend of mine even convinced himself, by constant repetition, that EVERY woman in the world wanted him. Except for those who weren't attracted to men, if you know what I mean. He freely conceded there were plenty of those out there, but he never seemed to have much problem attracting women on the whole.

There's a fine line to walk between being confident and being arrogant - unfortunately I have met many who think they are exuding confidence when in fact you feel like walking across to the farthest reaches of the bar/club/movie theatre/etc.

I think the balance is achieved by believing you have a unique quality as a person, concentrate your mind on that quality and highlight it (not too overtly, as in "hey girls/guys, look at the size of my [insert body part here]).

As part of the female section of the population, I have used this technique and found that I got more "hits" than strikes with it. It doesn't make you unbearable, and people are genuinely attracted to you as you believe in yourself.

I remember going to a formal function with a friend who was a pub landlady - plenty of confidence there, you'd have thought.

We had to walk the full length of the room - no one wa paying much attention, but she wanted to slink along.

'Tits and teeth!' I reminded her, 'Tits and teeth'; and we sashayed down the centre aisle.

To quote Alice Cooper:

She struts into the room
Well I don't know her
But with a magnifying glance
I just sort of looked her over, hmm
We have a drink or two
Well, maybe three
And then suddenly she starts telling me
Her life story

(Only one verse, nice moderator!)

Unfortunately we didn't get picked up by any long-haired singers in a rock and roll band. It wasn't that kind of do.

a girl called Ben

It all sounds very nice, but you haven´t said how to achieve that confidence. And it´s hard when people keep telling you what a moron you are.

i have to disagree. idon't particularly like men being confident. obviously, a weedy little guy who never goes out and talks to people sn't my idea of a nice bloke either, but too many menhave over-sized egos, and to quote from my little book of randomness, "male egos are dangerous creatures. they must be squished!"
well, that's my opinion.
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Xanatic, try to think of something about yourself you really like, doesn't necessarily have to be physical. Believe yourself that that talent, attribute, character makes you unique and interesting, and keep saying that even if other so-called people are saying otherwise. My experience is that people who automatically tell others they are "morons" or other not-so nice words are harbouring some deep inferiority complex or lack of confidence themselves, so just think those people don't really know what they are talking about. And, yes, those people are usually found in positions of authority, which is where that lack of confidence stems (most authority figures don't really believe they should be there, think they are "fooling everybody" and live in terror that this will be found out!)

Hope that helps

i wasn't trying to imply that confidence is a bad thing, just that if people have too muchof it it's a big turn off
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Xanatic

You're not a moron. Next time someone tells you, remember this and think to yourself that Fenny told them to get knotted! I've been there, lost with no self-confidence, and in the end it was someone saying that to me that got me inclined to win!

x x Fenny

In fact, Xanatic, yours is one of the many names on h2g2 that I like to see in a thread.

When you put forth a point of view it is intelligent and reasoned; and it is noticable that you are more patient with whacky tacky people like me who beleive in fluff like reincarnation.

Plus you have a wonderfully dry and warped sense of humour.

So if telling them 'Fenny says get knotted' doesn't work; tell them 'and Ben says you can eff right off'.

Subvert the dominant paradigm!

***B

Well, thank you. I´ll remember that in the future If only real life people were this nice

I AM this nice in real life!
a figment called Ben

w-w-wha-wha-what?
you mean this isn't real life? aaaaargh!!!!!!!

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