h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I've found that whether you are fat, thin, tall, short, handsome or ugly...... smiling face and smiling eyes and making people laugh works every time.... oh and make that eye contact

I agree - people are most attractive when they are busily engaged in things that they enjoy - when the feel they are 'good at' what they are doing. I films, the hero nearly always and the heroine usually are people who are in high-powered or exacting positions - reporters, leaders, auto racers, hitmen or women, cowboys, etc. All involve seeing people in action following their interests. No one complaining about his/her job or circs is very sexy. People usually meet their mates at work or in social clubs involving common interests. Sexy is not something that you can fake - at least not for long. When i feel positive or clever, I feel sexy, when I am feeling low, I feel ugly. And I find others usually react to how I am feeling at the moment.

yep, I think 'sexy' is a state of mind. I have periods when I feel fantastic and people respond to that, and I can feel people attractd to me. I have days when I feel not good, and people don't respond.

Perhaps it's the scowling face

I very much like the description "sexy is a state of mind"!!!

You're right, Harlequin, if you feel sexy people will find you sexy. If you feel unattractive people will see you as unattractive (OK! I'm oversimplyfing here but that's basically the way it works...).

But what does it take for you to feel sexy?
I think there are very different things that lead to the "I am sexy feeling".
For me the most basic things are confidence and a certain attitude. Be confident enough to show that you feel sexy. Little jokes and innuendos usually work pretty well. They show other people that you feel good and that people don't have to hold back around you.

But I think there is another level to feeling sexy as well. I mean the little things that you feel look good on you and that in reverse make you confident.
It could be anything: tight trousers or a dress with a low cut back. It really depends on "making the best of what you got".
For me pretty shoes always do the trick. I walk different in high heels and I feel more comfortable and confident when wearing them. I'm very proud of my feet too: I think they're very pretty.
I don't think that anyone will notice that I'm feeling sexy because of my shoes - they will just notice that I do feel sexy.
QED!

Aurora

I find I have a mental picture of what I look like and how I come across, this of course is usually dispelled by the first mirror I walk past, but soon forgotten

Some days I think I look good, other days, well.....

I rarely leave the house looking a mess, and clean clothes, good hair and a shave, or minimal growth, make me feel better... If I feel I've done the best with what I've got I usually feel ok.

But mood is important, I've had days when I feel like c**p and think no-one notices me, and other days when I think I'm getting admiring glances. On those days I usually flirt, and mostly get a smile or more usually a laugh.....(occasionally hysterics which is disheartening)

It is however so hard to pinpoint what in fact makes me feel sexy, or not as the case may be.

High heels certainly make a difference, they alter a woman's posture, and a woman in high heels will usually be more noticeable.

However falling off your shoes dispels the image somewhat

I assure you that I usually walk very gracefully on my high heels!
(But of course you're never safe from little accidents.... )

Mood is definetely important but not everything. I remember days when I felt awful and felt I looked awful but suddenly someone started to flirt with me and that cheered me up!
And suddenly I felt MUCH more attractive!

Unfortunately as society seems to dictate that guys should still make the first move, it is imperative that I feel sexy before flirting.

I can count the times a woman has thrown herself at me on Captain hooks left hand