h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I have run into flashbacks of my life occurring in other people's lives.
I have no idea what to tell them or what to do, because I didn't know what to do when it happened to me, and I don't haven't learned much in hindsight.

Sometimes experience is just a scar.
You can't really tell other's how to avoid it, particularly if it was an accident.

I know how to avoid the circumstances that led me to my accidents, but I cannot advance this knowledge to others, because until I had the accident, I didn't know how it felt or how it happened.
You just can't convey some things with words.

"Be Careful" is just not enough, sometimes.

Telling your story can be very reassuring. Knowing you are NOT alone in having had a similar experience, similar accident,or had similar lapses in judgement. (the human experience) You do not always have to "fix or prevent" a bad situation to be of value. Sharing and listening can make life less lonely in those scaring tough times.

Quite Possibly.

I hope so. I Could be wrong,I know that happens!

Rather than sharing, I tend to lecture.
This is found as off-putting by those who don't know me and just plain "same old stuff" by those who do.
Once I get started, it takes a bit to slow me down or shut me up.
Took me years to realize that a glazed gaze was not an encouragement to try harder.
This is some of what I cannot really pass on...
To tell a young person to avoid being boring by boring them to death in the telling may be a bit counter-productive...
I think, maybe.

* nodds in agreement* I think the most you can usually do, is be there AFTER the mistakes & resist saying "I told you so".

Oooo, now we're getting into "strength of character" and "decorum".

I'm usually so pleased at having guessed right that everybody soon knows it.

I don't mentor well.

People look at me strangely, as it is.
When I try to relate some experience, most of them are wondering why I am talking to them in the first place.

I do Not believe you know nothing! So..... you are Not a mentor. Do you want to be ? Is this a description you are OK with? I am familiar with the glazed over and why are you talking to me look! You probably do not want to waste your breath on those folks! If ALL look at you in the same way ,maybe it is you. If one or two persons , strangers, people you do not have respect for , it really does not matter. Are you speaking of particular individuals? Guessing right is fun ,generally speaking,you need keep that to yourself! People will "like" you for right & wrong reasons. People will "dislike" you you right and wrong reasons. Of those 4 groups-- You only need to worry about the people that dislike you for the right reason.It is hard to know if this applies. Forgive me, if I am way off! I was in marriage counseling. I was asked : do I want to be Right or Happy. Well um er---I answer Both!Of course I want to be right, I am here about getting happier! I was told in a stalemate sometimes you have to choose. In that case ,I learned to choose happy over right! Meaning you give up the need to be right ABOVE all. Go for happiness 1st.There is not always peace--nothing worthwhile gets done without some lack of peace of mind.It is not peace at all cost,sometimes you push being right.