This is a Journal entry by Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE)
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Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE) Started conversation Aug 2, 2002
And once again, for the 15th time I find myself sitting here with my heart in the right place and my cursor once again thwarts me. Only this time I got rid of my monitor so I can't see it. I will show him".
And I am sure you are all wondering what my interests might be entwined around today. Well this time it is about humanity. Now I am not talking about the human "race" per say, but more about our attitude. At least one facet, and it is a facet that saddens me sometimes. But without any further ado let me elaborate.
Diogenes once said, "I threw my cup away when I saw a child drinking from his hands at the trough." Now this quote can mean a lot of different things to different people. But for me it means that one needs to see the reality of the world when examining his own existence. Kinda prophetic don't you think? But one might ask when I though about this, or what sparked this train of thought? Well, let me tell you. It was at the local shopping mall. And one might then wonder why in all that God holds dear would I be pondering the humanity of the world around me at the local shopping mall. Well, then I would ask, "Doesn't everyone?" Then I would realize the silliness of this question and then go on to illustrate my point.
It was a sunny morning here in Watertown, NY. I, having just moved into my place, was seeking to purchase some nice adornments for the walls of my 2-bedroom apartment. Now then, I get out of my truck and start making my way into the mall. I notice at a distance that there was a homeless gentleman sitting outside the door of the mall asking the passers-by for some change. I kinda smiled half heartedly (you know the way you do when you see something sad but realize that is just the way it is) and dig into my pockets for some spare change to give this guy. I figure, God and all those around me have blessed me with good fortune, so I can at least spare some change. Everyone is worth some change. But, also in front of me is a about 3-4 groups of people, you know families and such. Well, of course this guy asks them for some change. Well, it was like they had been accosted or violated for the change. It was as if he was rumplestilskin asking for their first-born. These people, within ear shot of me, go on to say stuff like "Get away from me you bum," and "Why should I, you'll just buy alcohol," and "Get a job." This guy just accepts their response and goes on asking. It obviously hurt the man, but he needed some money so he kept at it. That is about the time I arrived to him. He asked me, and of course I obliged him. He wasn't asking me for my paycheck, or a large sum . . .just what ever I had in pocket. And when I handed it to him, he had the look of a child under a Christmas tree. I couldn't have made that man any happier. Then I listened to his story for a couple minutes. He had the most disparaging one I have heard yet. I mean they make country songs about this stuff. And whether or not it is true is not important, he believed it so in my mind it happened. And I wished him a good day and made my exit. Saddened of course, but I went on with my existence as he did his. He wasn't looking for special favors; he was looking for pocket change. Hey, we all get cancer, we all can get AIDS, we all get sick or have a bad time. WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS. WE ARE ALL HUMANS BEING (and yes I meant the spelling). And this is when I thought of Diogenes and this quote.
You see, more often than not, we go through life thinking that we are the only ones with problems and that all other problems with all other people are subordinate than everybody else's. Everyone, including this gentleman I speak of is no different, is luckier than someone else. I have not met that man or woman at the bottom yet; though I have met people that are further down the food chain we call "society" than myself. All tom often we see our lives as special and having no bearing on those around us. This is not the case, in my opinion. And I am not going to get all religious on you, for that is not my way, I think that way sucks. But I will get all "HUMAN" on you. We all have problems; we all fall on bad times at one point or another. But some people never recover. Now sure there are those that are purely lazy in their existence and we see them from time to time, but to stereotype all those who fall in the category of unfortunate as all the same is wrong. And most of us think the dollar of fifty cents we drop in the collection basket on Sundays is enough, and we leave the church or place of worship feeling good about ourselves, when someone maybe not even a mile away is eating the 4 day old raw chicken pieces we threw away. Simone Weil wrote once, "Attachment is the greatest fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is detached." And I know I am getting all "Buddha" on you, but the precepts of this quote and Buddhism as well appeal to my sense of humanity. So pardon the "soap box" as you will. But no problem amongst humans is any greater than anyone else's. Sure, sometimes we get preoccupied with our lives and our own needs and necessities. . that is only human. But to turn a blind eye to those who need more than we have is probably the greatest sin we can commit. In my opinion, worse than murder. You may say, "Hey he will only buy alcohol with the money." And I say, I buy alcohol with my money, you might buy it with yours, does this make us evil or immoral or lazy. NO. Who cares what he or she does with the money. You helped to stop a pain for a couple minutes. And you might say "Well he or she is just lazy and a slob and a detriment to society." And I would argue that you don't know the hard times they have fell upon, so who are we to judge. And until you can separate yourself like Weil said, then you can never know the reality, for in your mind a reality of the world will always be subjective. Every opinion we have is always biased with our own morals and ethics and background. But it isn't until you can get to the heart of the matter and separate your natural judgment that you can truly understand what it is that makes us what we are. Everyone has a story. Everyone has a pain. NO pain is any greater or any lesser than anyone else's. Do you honestly think that that mother with 4 children that is to poor to afford birth control or baby formula is proud that here house says "UHAUL MEDIUM SIZE BOX" on it? Every existence is wrought with some amount of suffering. It is the acknowledgement of this suffering that makes a human truly a human.
So what is the point of this article? I am sure we have all seen the people on the corner, whoring themselves for money, or begging in the front of the capitol building. Just once, only once is all I ask, rather than pass someone by despite their plea for kindness, ask them what made them that way. Strive to understand why they have to sleep with strangers for money, or beg to you in all your haughtiness for what ever it might be in your pockets. If you are unsatisfied with the answer . . .so what. It isn't your existence. And it isn't your place to justify theirs. Give the beggar the money, and walk away from the whore. Just don't pass judgments until you really know where it is that life went wrong for THEM. Until the reality of that sets into your mind, you have NO place to pass a judgment. Is judgment human? Yes it is. Is it called for? More often than not, NO. I have seen the homeless, and the contrite, and the unfortunate all my life. And at the beginning I passed the same judgments upon them. But that is because I knew no better. Now, I understand that to every life a little rain must fall. To some the rain never stops. We all go home to our places of residence, to our friends, to our family, to our lives. Some people can ever go home. Random acts of kindness are great. But constant ones are better. The kernel of truth will only be learned from LISTENING, not JUDGING. When faced with that that is different from our own, seek the reality behind it, rather than the reality you put upon it.
So to you all fellow researchers, I wish Godspeed and I look forward to hearing of your further endeavors.
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Shorty† (ACE, Keeper, Muse, MuG, Thingite) Posted Aug 2, 2002
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Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE) Posted Aug 2, 2002
Sounds like a plan. . .I will grab my superduper, ultra light nike moon boots
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Shorty† (ACE, Keeper, Muse, MuG, Thingite) Posted Aug 5, 2002
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Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE) Posted Aug 6, 2002
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 6, 2002
you buy alchool with your money...no way (this of course after I return home from a meet with 22 answering machine messages from some resercher saying things like "Do you know why the second letter of Michalobe is I? Because I love it")
hey man do you think we should make that a writing assinment for one of your visits down here...go out and get some stories and what not and make a entry on it
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Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE) Posted Aug 6, 2002
I'm game. Sure
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 7, 2002
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Shorty† (ACE, Keeper, Muse, MuG, Thingite) Posted Aug 9, 2002
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 12, 2002
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starbirth Posted Aug 12, 2002
Tacs you told me that picture on your site with you and Aaron holding what looked like beer bottles were filled with milk {you guys were just trying to fit in at the wedding since most people were drinking alcohol}
I know you boys would never let the unholy brew of the devil touch your lips!
I am not going to have to call your parents am I young men?
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 12, 2002
not our parents
at this point it prob wouldn't shock em to get some call from a complete stranger going
"yes are you the parents of Aaron or tacsatduck...why yes I am starbirth from this website and I would like to let you know that your son drinks ...why you already knew this...oh you have been out drinking with your son...isn't that strange oh well have fun goodbye"
I know I have drank with my mom...and he's drank with his dad...i don't think his mom drinks but I know he's had beers with his dad in front of his mom
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starbirth Posted Aug 12, 2002
Well OK as long as your parents know and you keep it within moderation. However I must insist that you stay far away from the most evil of all alcoholic drinks "TEQIULA"
On several occassions during my exuberant youth I was accosted by persons who held me down and forced this drink of the devil down my throut. {ussually in 1.5 ounce increments preceeded by a pinch of salt and bite of lemon}
This resulted in wild and extremly high spirited nights out on the town. Male bonding, females, fighting, exspulsion from public facilities, singing, spending money and all around making a specticle of oneself are shrouded in a foggy haze somewhere in the depths of my mind. My memory of these incidents along with being fuzzy are alas also fragmented.
Is this what you want for yourself? Vague memories of wild intoxicated partys, even wilder women,dancing and singing the night away. Only to find out it is saturday morning and you must do it again tonight?
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 13, 2002
well I for one stay aas far away from Tequila as I can get...I have been drunk a few times...and I am a happy go lucky drunk...well that is unless Teqiula is involved...I am ready to fight if I have a couple of those..and that's not something I like so I stay far away...I umm have dated a few girls that very much liked to drink it and I didn't stand in their ways but I didn't partake with them
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starbirth Posted Aug 13, 2002
seriously I used to drink with the best of them during my twentys but really have not drank much over last dozen years or so. Not that I am against it just havent had much intrest.
You are going to have to try this hard apple cidar made here. It is the only cidar mill in the country that can legally sell all natural hard cider from from site. {or so i have heard}
if your interested let me know and i would be glad to grab you a gallon during the season. you have to be quick though as they sell out in few days. goes on sale mid october.
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 13, 2002
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starbirth Posted Aug 13, 2002
you got it. I might be in the city around xmas time I will let you know {depends on knee surgery} and if your free we can get a drink or dinner. Ussually go for a night around xmas didnt make last year. usually stay next to times square {sheraton}
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 14, 2002
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starbirth Posted Aug 14, 2002
maybe we can get Aaron to join us. To be honest though i am a little worried about the throngs of teenage females that whill desend upon us. We should try to keep it low key.
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tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie Posted Aug 14, 2002
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- 3: Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE) (Aug 2, 2002)
- 4: Shorty† (ACE, Keeper, Muse, MuG, Thingite) (Aug 5, 2002)
- 5: Aaron O'Keefe the anti-pajama man (ACE) (Aug 6, 2002)
- 6: tacsatduck- beware the <sheep> lie (Aug 6, 2002)
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