h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

It would have so much better if you had managed to convey these feelings from the start.

Contrary to how you may have perceived your reception here, it is basically a very caring community. The main aim is to try and give everyone a warm welcome, guide them around all the places which may interest them and encourage them to join in by either writing for the Edited Guide, Unedited Guide or just have fun in the various fora.

Instead of trying to set up your own group why not take a few days exploring more fully and checking out the many clubs which are available? Bear in mind that this isn't an instant chat room-based site, though, so replies aren't always prompt. It is always a good idea to see if the group you are looking at is active. A pretty full list of clubs can be found by following the categorised links from A660304.

You mention that you like writing poetry and reading. There are quite a few poets around - have a look at A666254 and read a few, then, if you like one, post a message to the author. You will very likely make someone's day - not to mention a new friend. You can even try submitting some to <./>ThePost</.> for publication or to Writing-Alternative - the Alternative Writing Workshop.

It will probably take a while for all h2g2ers to accept that you are being sincere. Try to stick with this researcher name and number and steer clear of targetting new users for the time being. Established users will be less intimidated - they are used to people dropping by their pages and chatting whereas the new members are generally somewhat confused to begin with.

This site is huge and has much to offer just about everybody. It's a sure bet that you will be able to find your own little corner once you have settled down.

shazz

Thank shazz, but I really dont think they'll ever forgive me or even beleive what my page says.

If I was going to lie, then the last thing I'd lie about is my mother. well it wouldnt even be an option to be honest, AND I MEAN HONEST.

I dont know if I can ever fit in as a h2g2 researcher, so I'm unsure of what to do.

I'm not going to change my name anymore, or for aslong as I stay if no-one ever orgives me, or believes me.

As a carer you must be a very resiliant person. Use some of that resolve to try and stay on the right track from now on. I think your basic mistake was to try and run when you should have been crawling.

Enthusiasm is a wonderful thing but it can take over and sweep one along! As I said, this isn't a 'chat' site as such so replies can often take a while to filter through. It is, however, a very international site, so you will often find yourself posting to an American or Australian if you are about in the early hours of the morning.

Now you have tried to make your peace with those you upset it is probably best to just move on and make new acquaintances in here. Just take your time and be patient.

Do you have a favourite book or author? Is there a TV show you enjoy? Do you ride a bike (pedal or motor), drive a car, enjoy games and puzzles? There are groups for every imaginable activity who are always keen to exchange their views and ideas. Just type the subject into the search box and see what you can find - or ask me as I tend to know where to look.

If you really feel you have to leave then that is your decision. If you decide to stay you are welcome to shout if you need any help. But, please, try to stick to being a 'joiner' for now - at least until you feel more settled.

shazz

Hey Liam, I don't think you should worry about people not forgiving you, most of the people on here are pretty cool. Also, for most of them h2g2 isn't a big part of their life, they don't think about it that much and so they're not going to hold grudges, if you start acting more appropriately and not in a way that irritates other users, folks will forget or at least forgive. There are some people who fight your corner, such as Mort, I think she likes you and has stuck up for you consistently. As Shazz says just lurk for a bit and get involved slowly, I've been on h2g2 for a year now and it's only recently that I've felt confident enough to apply to join things. Good luck in starting afresh, it's always difficult for a bit but then it gets better

...and even if some people don't forgive you there are plenty of others on this site.

Mel

Hi Liam, I occassionaly do some work for a group called Sandwell young carers who offered tailored support and activities to people in your situation. Even if you think that you might be a little old for a young carers group you might like to get in touch with one of the many groups nationwide that are run by and for people who care for relatives.

People do understand what you are going through especially those who have gone through what you have and are going through it. You are only alone until you let other people know what you are going through and who knows simply airing your feelings with others in a similar situation may be the first step to the life you want and it will certainly provide some of the emotional release and support you need.

If you do contact one of them remember the lessons you have learned here about interacting with others and showing sourtesy and respect and Im sure things will turn out fine eventually.

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