h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Have you got lots of mates to go out with?
Mind you, meeting girlies in bars etc is not necessarily the way forward, if you know what I mean.

Indeed, but after one has been... ahem.... out of the loop for sometime one has to start somewhere .

More people meet partners at the supermarket than in night clubs apparantly .

Yeah I have loads of pals who go out. I go out a reasonable amount anyhow but up to now with the aim of errr habving a laugh and getting rat arsed and not well pulling.

Why have you been 'out of the loop' for a while?
Don't mind if you don't want to answer.

hmmmm....

I dont have any real objection to telling. During my teens I was never particualarly successful with girls, the odd snog but no serious relationships.

When I was in the upper sixth form (17) I basically got in a unrequited love situation with a female friend of mine. This was quite unhealthy and corresponded with me starting to get heavily into drugs. The consequence of a damaging emotional relationship and reasonably heavy drug use (not crack or heroin but just about everything else in spades) meant I was basically prett messed up for 4 or 5 years.

I basically got over this girl when she started going out with one of my best mates and I had to sort my life out. I gave up drugs but in the process put on lots of weight, the whole shenanigans plus the extra weight meant I lost quite a lot of self confidence. I was still enjoying life but when it came to girls I just didnt have any confidence whatsoever.

After about another two years of telling myself it didn't matter I came to realise during the course of last year that in fact I wasnt very satisfied being a bachelor, I decided to get some new threads, get fit and loose some weight and do something about it.

It has been moderatly successfull, help massivly ber errr pulling at new year. Even though nothing came of that I feel rather invigorated and much more like my old self in the whole confidence stakes...

So there you go. Typing it out like that makes it all sound a bit silly.

Nope sounds perfectly reasonable to me.
I have a few echos in my life:
Unrequited love in Sixth Form
Put on weight in my twenties and thought it didn't matter but it did.
Lost it now, partly through stress of splitting with husband and now I want to keep it off so am exercising and not eating a great deal in the evening. This seems to work - big lunch, sandwich/soup for tea. (no eating after 6pm)
I love feeling and being attractive. After all, I managed to pull Hoo

Good for you.

Well in my self improvement project I am nearly there but I still have a good stone and a half ish to go. I am mainly getting there by loads of exercise but a degree of dieting as well.

Still we will see how it all goes...

I still have about a stone too, if I am to achieve my goal but quite happy at the moment.
It really adds to ones confidence don't you think?

Deffo...

In fact to a degree I dont think you can realise until you do it. Strange thing with me is that in every other avenue of life I am really confident.

If a group of us go somewhere I always amd chatting to new people having a laugh, cracking jokes. I could even chat up girls, insofar as I wasn't actually in anyway interested in pulling them. But as soon as I was I frooze up. Down to confidence, and my low self esteem, at least about my errr.... attractiveness.

However I suppose like all loud brash confident men there was (as is) a great deal of err.... insecurity behind my public performances. I always say you show me a bloke who like to perform, I will showe you one that is insecure on some level!!

Very true Ferrett, very true.
You sound like a great guy anyway. I hope you 'pull' some more. It does wonders for the ego .

Is there a pic of you in Az's photo gallery?

Yeah, about page 10 I think, it is not the errr... best picture of me in the world, in fact I am thinking of giving Az some slightly more up to date ones.

"I hope you 'pull' some more. It does wonders for the ego"

Hmmm indeed! !

Oho!

I won't ask for any more details... as soon as I end up telling anyone about an emerging possibility, everything goes very quiet.

I'm coming to the conclusion that you can ask more or less any bloke over 21 (over 25, definitely) "So, who was the girl that you ed yourself up over, then?" - the significance being that you only need to say "who was..." rather even having to ask "was there a..."

I don't know about you, but I've only really pulled when I've gone out with the aim of enjoying myself rather than pulling... as you say, something about going on on the pull changes the way you behave and something doesn't work.

I can't believe that stat about supermarkets though... I'm always seeing lovely girls in my local Sainsbury's. And have often wondered, how are you supposed to start a conversation?

And like both of you, I'm definitely a lot more confident and happy when I'm slimmer - I'd got down to something approaching my fighting weight for the end of summer and the autumn and had a great time because of it. It must be down to the way that you look at yourself and how it makes you feel. I've put a bit on over Christmas, though, and I can't really exercise much since I've recovered from that bang on the head.

Harsh, nice to hear from you again Six.

Argyle were a bit rubbish on Sat no?

Easy to do the effing up thing though. Interestingly enough in my situation alltough I made my feelings clear, I never asked this girl out or tried to pull her, all part of my "fey romantic miserable person" thing.

I vowed when I got over her that in future I would always regret something I did, than regret something I didn't. Consequently I have now come to see that getting knocked back is not actually the end of the world. THusly (I hope) I might not pass up future err.... opportunities out of fear!

Hope your head gets better soon mate.

I was there, managed to get a ticket at the last minute! Barn Park End, four seats from the partition with the Everton fans

All the goals were a bit sloppy (particularly Wotton giving the ball away for the first), but the feeling I got from seeing Gudjonsson's goal for us was worth the long drive and the admission price on its own.

I don't know, most people I know that watched it on telly say it was a really good game of football, and we should have had a penalty. So we didn't get hammered or disgrace ourselves, we played it on the ground from time to time, and we *did* have a really good chance to equalise at 2-1 that Gudjonsson put over the bar, plus Wotton's screamer right near the end that just whistled the wrong side of the post. My mate reckons if Scott Taylor had been eligible to play, we could have done 'em.

I'm with you on the effing up thing. Interestingly, although I've been lucky enough to have been involved with some rather attractive girls over the years, nothing has *ever* happened with anyone who I've seen and decided I'd fancied. It's usually been them that had seen me and liked me. The golden rule I'm trying to apply - about 15 years too late, mind - is never to say how I feel until I'm sure I've got her hooked. I had a miserable romantic persona as well, and a fat lot of good it did me!

You're right about wanting to regret things you've done rather thna things you haven't. I look back on my time at University and I did loads of great stuff, but I think a lot more about the things that I didn't do. Hey, I feel terribly old saying that!

Arf arf,

I watched the game on TV to be honest. Due to work I have not been able to go to Argyle much this season. I always used to get annoyed when I went pretty much every week when I missed out on big or cup games so I decided not to go even though a mate could have got me a ticket.

In fact it is quite funny, I am like a bit of a reverse glory hunter, I seem to go less the better we do. The last season I had a season ticket was the year before our Div 3 championship.

"I'm only happy when it rains"

!

Well just purchased some tickest to see "The Bravery" on 14/02/05 in bristol.

Only heard one of their tracks which is pretty good but by all accounts they are going to be pretty big so I thought I would catch them before they get famous . Hopefully it will be tres !

Never heard of 'em but glad to hear you're taking your New Year's resolutions seriously.

Ice.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/entertainment/music/4097433.stm

Is just one of the many endorsements I have read. The NME eulogise about them. Normally I ignore the hype but still...

Hopefully I will get on with a couple more of my objectives, I lost two pounds this week, and I am going out to test my new threads after work tonight

Go Devil-Ferrett!
Be naughty, I recommend it.