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Emotional resilience

Post 61

Edward the Bonobo - Gone.

Yeah...these wretched machines are no good for conveying body language, no matter how many smiley - smiley's one uses. I'm pretty sure it's led to misunderstandings between you and I too, Az.

In general - often I make statements for the purpose of argument. In RL, my tone of voice would convey that these aren't necessarily deeply held convictions, merely starting points for further exploration. And other times I offend people because they can't see the twinkle in my pretty brown eyes.


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Post 62

azahar

Yeah, you and I have had a few misunderstandings in the past Edward, but nothing that (I hope) has affected our ability to remain hootoo friends.

We both have a rather 'strong' manner of posting at times, which I know from my experience can sometimes be misconstrued.

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Yes, even the smiley - winkeye smiley doesn't always reflect my obviously ironic tone of voice or the twinkle in my pretty green eyes!


Re: Moon. My smiley - blackcat Azar used to always chew on electrical cords when he was a kitten. After a year or so of constantly unplugging stuff when I wasn't in the room, at home, or when I went to bed, seemed to cure this.

One summer night many years ago I went to sleep with the electric fan going and woke up around 4am - no fan. The little b*gger had eaten the cord right through! I was so pleased that he also hadn't electrocuted himself in the process. Anyhow, as I say, he seems to have got over that now - it was a kittenhood thing. Much like how my big FAT cat Sunny used to chew holes in my pjs while I was asleep when he was little. smiley - erm


az


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Post 63

Edward the Bonobo - Gone.

>>Yeah, you and I have had a few misunderstandings in the past Edward, but nothing that (I hope) has affected our ability to remain hootoo friends.

Oh, absolutely! I've always been aware that I've been mistaken, but it would be too complicated to unpick it and explain.


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Post 64

psychocandy-moderation team leader

Herman bites the buttons off of our shirts. I don't get the fascination with stuff like that.

Glad to hear Azar survived the fan chewing incident, though!

Truth be told, when reading postings by both of you, Edward and Az, I generally assume that those pretty eyes (and yes, you both have lovely eyes!) are twinkling and proceed with that in mind. I trust that if either of you *did* feel strongly, you could communicate it effectively without tearing me a new one. Unless, of course, I asked for it.


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Post 65

psychocandy-moderation team leader

I have had understandings with friends here as well, including the three of you. We all seem to have gotten over it and manage to remain as good of online friends as ever.

Can't say I've ever had a "misunderstanding" with anyone here that wasn't eventually settled peacefully and to everyone's satisfaction. I've had to sever some ties completely, but never due to a mis-read post. In fact, finding out first-hand recently how unpleasant it is to have someone trash-talk me behind my back for no good reason other than to justify their own bad behavior, I've apologized to one of our mutual acquaintances, Az, for calling her something rude on one of your journals.

All of these compliments are putting me in a sickly sweet mood. So, you're all a pain in my a*se! smiley - winkeye


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Post 66

zendevil


Moon did have a disturbing fetish for electrical cords, we got through two modems & two phones & narrowly avoided her blowing herself to bits on an extension cable!smiley - yikes

Plus she was bullying Yoda; who is quite OK now as an indoor cat & just wants a quiet life. It was obvious Mooon needed outdoor stuff and the perfect solution arrived.

Robin Lee is a 7yr old girl, great friend of mine, who doesn't have an awful lot of fun in life smiley - grrNOT her fault; she is a delightful person with masses of the emotional resilience we are talking aboutsmiley - ok

She has recently moved to a large house just outside Angoulême with loads of outdoor space & had been begging for ages for a kitten of her own tosmiley - love. Mum phoned me to ask if i knew of one that was still kittenish *but* housetrained.....the rest you can guess!

Adoptive mummy &smiley - cat are apparently in 7th heaven!smiley - biggrin (Baby brother isn't too keen, but i am sure he will learn to live with it!smiley - winkeye)

zdt


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Post 67

azahar

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Yeah, I've seen that thread, even posted on it. What can I say? Been there, done that. But the first time you ever say *anything* even remotely disagreeing with her anywhere else, all that nicy-nicy stuff with go totally out the window, down the tubes, and you will be the *enemy* again faster than you can blink.

I have an even longer nicy-nicy thread with that person somewhere on my PS. Went on for quite some time. I even got emails from her. But it turned out it was just a load of cr@p. Just warning you as it could turn at any time. It isn't real, she's just playing you.


az



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Post 68

psychocandy-moderation team leader

I know it's quite possible, even likely. But I did feel like it was wrong of me to speak about someone like that, and over something as trivial as a disagreement about politics. As if her views were some kind of real threat to me. Thanks for the warning, though. I've been warned similarly in the past about two different individuals here who'd fixated on me and went so far as to insist we were "best friends", or more even, when we were hardly even well-acquainted. Maybe one of these days I'll learn to leave emotionally unstable people alone.

>But the first time you ever say *anything* even remotely disagreeing with her anywhere else, all that nicy-nicy stuff with go totally out the window, down the tubes, and you will be the *enemy* again faster than you can blink.<

Sounds exactly like what happened a little over a month ago. Fortunately, I've been able to steer clear of that whole mess.


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Post 69

zendevil


*resists* just*saying anything BUT

te he, i got post 69smiley - nahnah

smiley - winkeye

zdt


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Post 70

psychocandy-moderation team leader



No wonder your knee's in such bad shape! smiley - tongueoutsmiley - winkeye


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Post 71

zendevil


smiley - rofl I wish! Not in RL, viking is trying to persuade me to complain bitterly to social workers, doctors & anyone else who will listen that this is seriously affecting the sex life; i am counteracting with "sod it, just be more imaginative mate!" (don't worry, he is only joking; well sort of!)

Hmm; seriously, we are watching a very good debate on the Social situation here; what probably "you lot" don't realise is that France has undergone a massive transformation from what was previously the best social & health care system on earth into one that is in utter shambles; mainly 'cos nobody seems to understand the new rules & everyone gets pushed around bureaucracy or usually just gives up trying (there is a popular theory that this was the idea in the first place)

They just came out with a good phrase "This is encouraging a fragile dependency on something which no longer exists"

True. Sad. There you go, we are basically being left to fend for ourselves.

zdt


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Post 72

Edward the Bonobo - Gone.

Drawing it back down to the gutter...

Well, if he asks for a 69, you'll just have to say 'How about 68 and I'll owe you one.'

It's a total myth that all men are programmed to require the bouncy-bouncy bit above all else. I know there are plenty of guys who, like me, prefer...er...other stuff smiley - blush

Clue: smiley - tongueout


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Post 73

psychocandy-moderation team leader

I'll take the smiley - tongueout any day, too. Although I do like the bouncy bouncy.

Although it's as pleasureable to give smiley - tongueout as it is to receive... sometimes more so.

I've a whole massive rant I've been compiling mentally for this thread... maybe I'll post it over the weekend. If not... I'm happy to bemoan the negative effects of knee surgery on one's social life and all of the creative ways around it.


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Post 74

Edward the Bonobo - Gone.

smiley - blush It was the giving I meant smiley - blush

smiley - musicalnoteSouth of the border...smiley - musicalnote


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Post 75

psychocandy-moderation team leader

I'm not sure if I prefer the giving or the getting... giving is more gratifying, really. But getting feels *sooooooooooo* good! smiley - evilgrin


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Post 76

zendevil


*Sighs* very heavily & goes hunting for the bright green vibrator; what a thoughtful birthday gift!smiley - evilgrin

I am now strapped into a bloody great splint thingy, which is hardly the sexiest thing on earth, but it doesn't really matter 'cos viking hassmiley - runaway "smiley - yikespossibility of responsibilitysmiley - yikes"; he has blown his blow job as it weresmiley - evilgrin

PC, Mescaleros Cd should be prescribed to all patients, plus MSN convos with Lil, we could make psychiatrists a dying breed very quickly, it would save the health services a fortune which they could spend on stuff that really matters. Ed, let's do a smiley - chef thing too, we could write a very successfulsmiley - book combining all this; become rich & famous & save the world.

There must be a website for people with knee injuries, hey, mine is the one the footballers get, i might end up on "Footballer's Wives"!!!

zdt*off hunting for cute bloke with dodgy knee & nice fat compensation package*


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Post 77

psychocandy-moderation team leader

>nice fat compensation package<

Is that what they're calling them now? smiley - devil

Will see if I can dig up some dodgy knee info for you, I must have something bookmarked from when I injured mine four years ago...



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Post 78

zendevil


See the eye thread; me be googling & it isn't very nice news!!!

zdt


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Post 79

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Nope. Read the article you linked to. (Will also read up more as soon as I can dig up more info). Red my reply on Eyes and tell me if that would help with practicalities any?

Meanwhile, while your injury and my old one concern different types of tissue- yours being cartilige and mine ligaments- they're caused by similar wrenching, and treated similarly. My surgery was in-and-out, and I was up and about in a few days. I had torn my ACL and MCL. (Info from here: http://orthoinfo.aaos.org/fact/thr_report.cfm?Thread_ID=157&topcategory=Knee)

"The cruciate ligaments are located inside the knee joint and connect the thighbone (femur) to the shinbone (tibia). They are made of many strands and function like short ropes that hold the knee joint tightly in place when the leg is bent or straight. This stability is needed for proper knee joint movement.

The name, cruciate, derives from the word crux, meaning cross, and crucial. The cruciate ligaments not only lie inside the knee joint, they crisscross each other to form an "x". The cruciate ligament located toward the front of the knee is the anterior cruciate ligament (ACL), and the one located toward the rear of the knee is called the posterior cruciate ligament (PCL)."

"The ACL prevents the shinbone from sliding forwards beneath the thighbone. The ACL can be injured in several ways:


Changing direction rapidly

Slowing down when running

Landing from a jump

Direct contact, such as in a football tackle"

"The collateral ligaments are located at the inner side and outer side of the knee joint. The medial collateral ligament (MCL) connects the thighbone to the shinbone and provides stability to the inner side of the knee. The lateral collateral ligament (LCL) connects the thighbone to the other bone in the lower portion of your leg (fibula) and stabilizes the outer side.

Injuries to the MCL are usually caused by contact on the outside of the knee and are accompanied by sharp pain on the inside of the knee. The LCL is rarely injured."

All I know is it hurt like HELL, and still gets tricky during high humidity and biting cold... but the newer operative procedures are not terribly invasive and allow quicker healing and get you back on your feet quite soon afterward.

Sorry for all the technical data in my commiseration... but I'll keep looking for knee related info I think might help you.

And thanks for distracting me from my impending rant about whining, narcissistic, overgrown adolescents who insist on blaming other people for their misery, then can't understand why no one wants them around after a fashion.

*trying to devise some kind of electrified Terri trolley that will aid in keeping her off her feet*


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Post 80

zendevil


OOh i like the sound of that!!! Own personalsmiley - ufowould be absolutely ideal!!

I have only myself to blame really though, since physically picking up overgrown narcissistic adolescent types when they are 20kg heavier than you & attempting to prove you want to get rid of them is bound to lead to trouble. I can do it usually, but not when they wrap their feet round you & do clinging gerbil type stuff.

zdt


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