h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

[this is my email response to my mom's email discussing the subject of my Academic Studies]

I made a decision that I won't reverse.

Since I started my university career, I was "doubtful" about the goal that my studies could achieve. I was wondering and doubting if I could ever work as anything brillant and worthwhile with a History Degree.

I NOW can no longer doubt, but fully be committed to finishing the Specialized BA History Programme so that I will be allowed to do a Master's in History.

Also, since January 2003, I've been wondering about and trying to get another boyfriend (this is the truth). I have always been wondering since January 2003 if I can ever be successful in having a boyfriend and successful in my academic career at the same time. But I now have completely accepted that I can't have my attention divided. Now, after reviewing my academic progress, I must fully commit --without a doubt-- to my university education. I cannot reconcile these two disparate subjects -- I can't try to get a boyfriend and try to follow through in my academic studies at the same time.

I was hoping that getting a boyfriend wouldn't be an incompatible choice to accomplish along with my academic studies. But trying to a get a boyfriend has proven to divide my attention from my academic studies. I was wishing that I could be successful in both. But I have to accept that I can't; and I choose my Academic Education instead of trying to get a boyfriend.

Master Programmes start in January? Well, when I graduate in January 2007, this is good timing for me to immediately start work in a MA.

Furthermore, I have to better get to know the History Professors so that I can know who can accept me as a graduate student to do a MA. I have to research this so that I can know who can accept me. Or I have to research other universities, and see if Laurentian could send me to a collaborating university for me to be in a MA Programme.

Traveller in Time on his head
"Was trying to get a boyfriend not just doing what you are supposed to do, learn and have an open eye for who and where you go.

, what is a 'History Programme' "

Right, you're British so you don't know.

A History Programme is a
university set of studies/or set of courses in History.

I am a Canadian.

About the Canadian University system:

The Canadian University system has a Bachelor's Programme and a Master's Programme (then there is a PH.D Programme). The Bachelor's Programme is your choice of study/or career choice, while a Master's Programme has you further specialize to be a Doctor (or engineer) in something. A PH.D further accomplishs to have you be in the highest ranking of Doctor or an Engineer, which then enables you to teach the damned subject (of whatever you've studied) at the University Level.

You already know a thing or two of what I just said. But the Canadian University system has different names ascribed to the stages of the Academic Process.

So, furthermore...

A Major is your first focus or 1st concentration on a particular subject. So, for instance, I Major in History because that is the field of academics that I particularly focus on.

A Minor is auxiliary to your Major. You don't need a Minor. But if you choose to have one, then this means that you secondly focus on or have a 2nd concentration on a subject to compliment your Major.



...And many thanks for telling me that "trying to get a boyfriend" is defeating and wrong to do.

Congratulations!

And don't worry too much about the guy thing... it'll happen when it happens! I spent three years trying to meet guys, and this year when I stopped, they started. Go figure.

You experienced the same shit as well! Dammit!

I tried for 2 years to get a boyfriend (comparable to fishing, but having no luck whatsoever). Finally last night, I simply decided to not try anymore because I have been frustrating and driving myself mad for 2 years.

Here's a rhetorical question:

Why can't you have what you want the most by trying the hardest to get?

So lets say that you are hungry and you need to eat. Everyone needs subsistence. If you try so hard to get food, then you really are damned to starve because of the above rhetorical question.

Is the above rhetorical question why animal species go extinct?
Because desperate animals make the difficult situation worse?
Or these desperate animals keep using the wrong tactics, or are (as you before mentioned) "bottlenecked" into being specialized in a now changed and, therefore, unsuitable environment for their tactics?

I felt like I was about to go extinct because I was dismally failing in trying to get a boyfriend.

I guess either way being desperate damns you.

I guess that being patient and waiting for the "objective" ("what you want") to come to you is the right situation (or the right time, right place) to get what you wish for.

However, I DO NOT care about silly stupid romantic prospects with the male gender. Stupid boys. Grrr. I no longer am interested in them. Also, I CERTAINLY am not interested in anyone else -- some people think that being frustrated with boys means that you could try dating the other option (not for me!).

I NO LONGER care about getting romantically involved with a guy. I no longer care about sex, and I no longer want to get married. All my efforts so far in the game of dating have been suicidal and, therefore, nearly killed me. So, I've concluded that I am absolutely FOREVER "off limits". I have been abstinent since this summer, and I will stay this way FOREVER.

I wouldn't say "forever." As everyone saw on Boxing Day, life can change in an instant.

Never forever, but not for right now.