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i don't know why but I can't seem to get over the death of my grandmother.She was 95 when she died and she had alwayd lived in the same house all my life whereas we moved around a lot.Its been two years but I still can't shake off that insecure feeling of noo longer being part of something special. With three children to lookafter the world keeps on racing ahead and it must but I can't find the desire to move along with it.my parents are still very much alive so its odd that I should be grieving so badly over this.

Having grandparents brings you security that you don't have to grow up. When a generation goes, you move one step up the ladder, thus having to grow up in the process.

I'm lucky. I still have 2 sets of grandparents....one on my mums side and one on my stepdads side. (my real father and his parents are all dead now).

My partner no longer has any grandparents, and I think that's really sad.

Death can do such strange things to us. Just when you think you're over loosing someone, their memory comes right back at you...I'm sure it's their way of making sure you don't forget about them.

It will get easier

Too be honest it make s the world a slightly scary place too.

I know

My father died a few weeks ago. It still seems like it happened yesterday.

There is NO right or wrong way to respond to this. This is one of the worst things that we have to go through. Treat grief as a friend. It allow you to mourn properly. And it reminds you that you are still alive.

Hi.

About the death of you grandmother, you may not have noticed but it appears you're already over the impact now you have to deal with the space that's left.

Maybe if you look on it like this. Your grandmother is in a waiting room out of sight of you but you know she's there, you must vouchsafe the next part of her journey, she still needs your help. Make up a simple request(prayer) for her, something you can use to petition help from the 'ticket master'.

Have her in your minds eye when you recite it, do it everyday for the next 6 wks or, longer if need be. You will probably know when she has 'left the building'.

She still needs your help.

The one thing you must remember about the feelings you are experiencing is they are only feelings. You are not alone.

If any of this helps you, we are all pleased, if it does'nt, forgive the intrusion.

Be Well.

Neely

Death is not a friend or an enemy. Death simply is. When someone or something dies you should feel the loss for the one that has gone not for one's own subjective loss.

Any other tretament on the subject is disease.

Neely