A Conversation for Body Language
Attraction
I'm not really here Started conversation Sep 6, 2000
People that fancy other people often touch themselves where they would like to touch the other person (stroking legs etc,), keeping their bodies pointing towards the object of desire.
Eye contact is held slightly longer than usual, sideways glances, smiling, wonmen playing with their hair, wiping imaginary dust off the other person's clothes, leaning forwards towards the other, standing or sitting closer together than normal.
I could go on all day.
But I won't, I'll pause for now, and be back later.
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Wampus Posted Sep 6, 2000
Do tell. I always like to hear about things women don't do when they're around me.
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Biggy P (the artist phormerly known as phord) Posted Sep 6, 2000
Occasional Glances broken off the moment you make eye contact.
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Pitzel Posted Sep 7, 2000
An interesting thing to notice is that a person's pupils will dilate more than normal when they are attracted to you. I guess the reasoning is that the person's eye is trying to take in as much information as possible about the object of their adoration. Note that this also works for anything that one likes, including cars and the like.
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Wampus Posted Sep 7, 2000
Including poker hands. Professional poker players use this to see if their opponents have gotten favorable hands, since it's harder to control the movement of pupils than one's facial expression.
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Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment Posted Sep 7, 2000
One thing I've notice and do is when I'm attracted to someone i bite on my lip. I also do this when I'm nervous.
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I'm not really here Posted Sep 7, 2000
Maybe when you spy someone you fancy you get nervous?
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Metal Chicken Posted Sep 7, 2000
Here's another way to test how well you're getting along with someone. If you're in tune with the person you're speaking to you'll often find you unconciously mirror each other's body postures. So if I rest my hand on my chin, the other person will follow me, if he leans forwards I'll find myself making the same move and so on.
I was actually told this as a technique for making interview candidates feel at ease. Amazingly it does work although clearly if you're too obvious about it, it's spooky and has the opposite effect.
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I'm not really here Posted Sep 7, 2000
I do this deliberately when I fancy someone.
What I find disturbing is when people I don't fancy mirror me, then I change position pretty quickly!
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Biggy P (the artist phormerly known as phord) Posted Sep 7, 2000
the trouble is i'm always scared of misreading body language like that.
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Mardi Gra Posted Sep 8, 2000
The reason people's pupils dilate is adreneline: this is released when you are excited or afraid. So, whether you fancy someone, think you're about to win a game, or are telling porky pies then they will dilate.
A psychologist called Neisser found that when shown two pictures of the same woman, with the pupils artificially dilated in one picture, people rated the doctored version of the woman as more attractive - without being able to say why. So, if you're heart jumps into your mouth when you spot someone you fancy, smile in the knowledge that the adreneline making you weak at the knees is also helping you look your best!
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Demon Drawer Posted Sep 8, 2000
The eyes are not called the windows of the soul for nothing you know. Look into them and you'll soon now if the attraction is mutual, eye contact last's longer with attraction and the eyes are more aflame
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Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment Posted Sep 11, 2000
Giggiling is also another sign of attraction. I noticed this over the weekend while bartending.
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HFloyd Posted Sep 30, 2000
you got any web resources you recommend? please get back to me soon, as I am in need of instant ckarification what this gilr means....
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Somer, Muse of Aged Cheese Posted Oct 3, 2000
When ever I'm attracted to someone I always get nervous so my legs shake. Also, I talk either not at all or too much.
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Researcher 155388 Posted Oct 4, 2000
So, we know about what WOMEN do when they're attracted, what about you guys? Not all men just lay it out on the line, you know. Some of the 'quality gents' with whom I spend my time are pretty shy about that sort of thing. And I'm tired of making the first move!!
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- 1: I'm not really here (Sep 6, 2000)
- 2: Wampus (Sep 6, 2000)
- 3: Biggy P (the artist phormerly known as phord) (Sep 6, 2000)
- 4: Pitzel (Sep 7, 2000)
- 5: Wampus (Sep 7, 2000)
- 6: Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment (Sep 7, 2000)
- 7: I'm not really here (Sep 7, 2000)
- 8: Metal Chicken (Sep 7, 2000)
- 9: I'm not really here (Sep 7, 2000)
- 10: Biggy P (the artist phormerly known as phord) (Sep 7, 2000)
- 11: I'm not really here (Sep 7, 2000)
- 12: Mardi Gra (Sep 8, 2000)
- 13: Demon Drawer (Sep 8, 2000)
- 14: Courtney Patron Saint of Social Embarassment (Sep 11, 2000)
- 15: HFloyd (Sep 30, 2000)
- 16: Somer, Muse of Aged Cheese (Oct 3, 2000)
- 17: Researcher 155388 (Oct 4, 2000)
- 18: Researcher 163151 (Dec 11, 2000)
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