h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I try my hardest in all i do and guess where it gets me no where. I can't be with the one person I truly love and I can't get any work. I have accusations flying at me. Sisters that hate me. Maybe I ought to just up sticks to outer mongolia or some deserted island and stay there till i pass out.

You know, as much as it sounds like a good plan... I'm sure things will look up soon

I surely hope so but I can't see anything at the mo that helps except escaping

...Escaping rarely solves anything...

What's happened, if I might ask?

the temping has stopped so I am back to square one... hunting for jobs like other graduates. I see Unc and PSG have it all made for them and want the same. I want to live with my bf and to have a great job and be able to support the both of us. Its just not fair I deserve a right to happiness right? people keep saying that it'll happen 'soon' but what is the definition of soon I'm going insane not being able to do what I want.

Having been in the same situation, and not very long ago, I know what it's like . Getting a job was by no means easy and I really don't have a good job. PSG has a better job but neither of us are earning that much, but between the both of us we can pay the rent. Two months ago though we were opposite ends of the country, I was unemployed and he wasn't earning enough to pay any rent. Things have changed, you'll find that things will change for you too . I know how unfair it feels, like happiness is denied you. There are very few good points about long distance relationships, but I know you don't want empathy, you want Andy. So keep applying, I know how hard it gets, how it seems there's some sort of conspiracy against you getting the one small thing you want, how hard it is when you've no idea when that job offer will come. But the only way to get what you want is to keep trying, to be optimistic, to think that you can get that job. You've an upper second degree, you've lots of work experiance both paid and voluntary, you've plenty of interests, you've the confidence you need, there's no reason why you can't get what you want. Don't think about time, I know how how that is but once you are together it will fade into insignificance.

Thankyou Unconformity I'm that I'm impatient and hope I haven't hurt you with the green eyed monster thing. Hopefully you are right after all some of what you have said I keep saying to myself already. I just had a bad day yesterday that has put me into this depression again. Also what has happened to me is like the opposite to you and PSG and in a way I think its harder. Thanks again for a lovely post and your understanding. opti

Believe me, being apart is never easy, and I know full well it gets harder . It really wasn't long ago when I was in your possition, you can get yourself out of it

what do you mean it gets harder?

Being apart. PSG and I used to be able to manage a 5 week gap OK. Sure it wasn't pleasant, but it was manageable. A few months later and two weeks apart was awful.

ah time my problem is the goodbyes but as Andy says they aren't truly goodbyes ... time isn't a problem if i can bury my head in something ... i'm used to spending time away from family (being to uni and all) and so can cope for a while being without andy... but with phone calls andy would not be able to cope if he did not hear my voice once a day whilst I usually have to cut contact for a while until seeing the person again... but I am getting used to coping with phone calls and would be irritated if he didn't follow his return... ah we are a crazy couple aren't we

Oh, PSG and I were phoning each other for an hour each evening, people marvelled that we found so much to talk about . Which reminds me (in a rather round about way ) do you still want to visit? The house is ready for visitors now

yep would love to visit you but my theory at the moment is until I get a job I'm going no where and then I have to learn to drive first before going anywhere too. So looks like I'm going to be visiting all those who wish me to visit them including Andy's home next year sometime. Maybe this sounds like a funny way of doing things and to dissapoint all but I'm just desperate to get work and get all sorted.

No problem, we'll probably be here until next September . If you feel you need a break though from all that job hunting then you and Andy are quite welcome .

whats happening after that september?

Thanks for the offer

Can I come too? In fact, there are probably a few people around here who'd currently move to a desert island if they could. We could start a thriving community, so long as it turned out more like Swiss Family Robinson than it did Lord Of The Flies...

My point is that you're not the only one. Small comfort, I know, but there are a good few of us out here who, if not in exactly the same boat, are in a remarkably similar one, and still wanting to change course to that desert island.



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I know that you are right but all I can see is whats surrounding me for I am me. Wish I could see those other people and help them if at all possible. Talking of desert Islands and the like my bf suggested moving to outer Scotland... I think staying put sounds a better idea

Don't know yet, might not be moving at all but there's a chance this house will be put for sale then as we'd have had enough time to find our feet

Why move there? Wouldn't it be harder to find a job?

definitely .... oh right well hopefully all will work out well

I know the feeling... I'm feeling rather self absorbed with it all at the moment. Just wish I could up sticks and start again somewhere else.

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