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29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 1

marvthegrate LtG KEA

My father died early this morning. He would have been 62.

My dad is gone and I don't know what to think. I am completely lost at the moment. My world has turned upside down. My biggest fear about moving away from my family has been realised. They need me there and I am stuck here...


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 2

Titania (gone for lunch)

smiley - cuddle

Sorry to hear about your loss - had he been ill lately?


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 3

Galaxy Babe - eclectic editor

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I'm so sorry Marv

Thinking about you and your family

smiley - loveAnnie/GB


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 4

marvthegrate LtG KEA

Thanks Annie. I really feel destroyed at the moment and am not very coherent. I think that I will be up all night now..


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 5

Galaxy Babe - eclectic editor

I don't know if you know that my father is terminally ill, so your pain is mine, my friend.

smiley - hug

We're all here, if you need us..


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 6

kelli - ran 2 miles a day for 2012, aiming for the same for 2013

He was still young at 62, this must have come as a terrible shock for you and your family. Look after yourself and get back to your folks as soon as you can smiley - cuddle


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 7

Good Doctor Zomnker (This must be Tuesday," said GDZ to himself, sinking low over his Dr. Pepper, "I never could get the hang of Tuesdays.")

I'm at a loss for words Marv...


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 8

Hypatia

Marv, I'm so sorry. smiley - rose You have a good support group here. Use it. We all love you.

(That goes for Annie, too. This webite can be a hugh comfort during rough times.)


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 9

Witty Moniker

smiley - cuddle I am so sorry, Marv.


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 10

Good Doctor Zomnker (This must be Tuesday," said GDZ to himself, sinking low over his Dr. Pepper, "I never could get the hang of Tuesdays.")

As Hypatia said Marv, we are all here for you when you need us.


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 11

Teuchter

Marv - I second what Hyp just said.
You're adrift just now - but remember your friends will keep you afloat.
I know you'll be a huge support and comfort to your family - and that can be a heavy weight to take on your shoulders but you'll find the necessary strength within yourself.

Sending you my love and best thoughts.


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 12

soeasilyamused, or sea

I think you probably still have my cell number, Marv. Use it if you need to. smiley - hug

My condolences are with you and your family. I remember meeting your father, and I found him to be a good man.


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 13

Galaxy Babe - eclectic editor

How are you doing, Marv?

smiley - hug


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 14

marvthegrate LtG KEA

Things are alternativly rough and then OK. Things are not good right now.

I am trying to get on with my life but I find myself making poor decisions (like if the loan goes through on this car... I am too young for amid life crisis but this will be the perfect vehicle (in more ways than one) for it) and questioning everything I do. It makes no sense. Wether I buy a car or not, do I have this other drink or not etc. are really meaningless in this context but I am not happy with some of the decisions that I have been making.

I don't know...


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 15

Teuchter

smiley - hug You just have to do what you think is right at the time, Marv.
If you're worried about making a wrong decision - perhaps it might be better to postpone making any big decisions until you're back on an even keel?
Try to take things one day at a time - then you don't have to look at the big picture until you're ready.


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 16

Galaxy Babe - eclectic editor

I would say that's a natural reaction to the shock you have suffered.

You're under a great deal of stress, I think there's a top 3 of 'most stressful things' that can happen to anyone - divorce, bereavement, accident...you need time to adjust, this is a whole new life for you - the one without your Dadsmiley - blue
smiley - hug
Your world has been knocked out of its orbit, and you need to take time to recover and get back into step. Don't rush it, and try not to make any life-changing decisions right now.

I don't know if you can get any counselling but I recommend it. If not, we're here to listensmiley - smiley


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 17

FairlyStrange

It's been a feew weeks since I've been here, so I'm definitely late. So sorry to hear of your loss. Losing parents is a life altering experience, but I know you will handle it.

As was said before, try to get back to your family, at least for a visit, as soon as you can. In this situation there is no therapy that is as good as family support. At least that has been my experience.

Me and mine will be thinking of you.

NM


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 18

marvthegrate LtG KEA

Thanks, NM.


29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 19

Amy Pawloski, aka 'paper lady'--'Mufflewhump'?!? click here to find out... (ACE)

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29 April 1944 - 24 Jan 2006

Post 20

Baron_Shatturday

I hate to hear the news about your dad, Marv. Losing people that close to us changes our whole world. smiley - sadface


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