h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I think I am having the post birthday blues.

Mostly because I said a lot 'by the time I am 35...'

This wouldn't be a problem were it not for the fact that when I was 30 I said 'By the time I am 35 I want to be in a position to think about having kids.'

At 30 I had given myself time to meet someone and us feel stable enough together to think about a family.

Now I am at 35 then quite frankly waiting to meet someone and feel stable enough to think about a family will take me over 40 (if I am lucky!)

I am starting to have thoughts of never having a child and ways of having a child - partner or not.

Is this post birthday blues or a wake up call?

Blues probably. Sorry you are having them. I know I'm lucky to have found a man I was prepared to father my child in my 20s.

i'd feel privliged myself

Inevitable, i'd say, "biological clock ticking" stuff. My friend Karen is also 35 & was in a very dodgy relationship for a long time, no way would this guy be any sort of good papa.

They split up & she has just got pregnant by someone else, not planned, & he probably won't have much, if any contact with the babe; but Karen is fine about that; just over the moon to be having a kid.

*But* she has support from family & friends & is working & will get maternity benefits & all that; she is a very practical person & i am sure she will cope fine.

At the end of the day, it's down to you, everyone knows there are ways of getting pregnant that don't involve actually having the father physically around; maybe you will be mum first then find true love later; who knows!

whatever!

zdt

I know someone who was married,but never had a family,and lost her hubby very suddenly in her late 30's.At the age of forty-two she found she was pregnant,but her partner of six months or so didn't want to know.Her family supported her by just been there when she needed them,and helped out when she went back to work,and her daughter is now 12 years old.
As terri says,i think it's your body clock ttickng away there.....and to be honest i tend to get birthday blues every year,,,iT NEVER USE TO WORRY ME!!!

to sing the blues you got to live them too

Ah yes, the old clock-determined achievement thing. I was supposed to have picked up a mortgage, the career of my choice, and the partner for all time, by the time I hit 35. As far as my inadequate and dodgy maths can work it out, I have about 15 weeks left in which to sort it all out. I don't like my chances.

Anyway. Ignore the clock, ignore the calendar, and dismiss anybody who mentions them as being inadequately mentally endowed. It really is the only way.

I also recommend getting severely drunk. I'm drunk right now, and it feels just right.

*hic*

"I also recommend getting severely drunk. I'm drunk right now, and it feels just right."

I have sneaky suspicion that is where the last 5 years went - that and the latest pharmaceutical 'cure alls' (legal ones I hasten to add)

Oh well - better nip to the shop before it shuts and get a bottle of wine

I suspect that's where my last five years have gone too... It seemed like a good idea at the time.

i know the feelin

can we all get pisd together please? it really does seem like the only non-sensible solution; anyway i hit the big bloody half century in a couple of weeks, that's a real nicety!

zdt*very little to show for 50 yrs on the planet*

I hit my 50th last year.. and was determined to grow old disgracefully!




I seem to be winning!



lil xx

Well that's good news! i wasn't sure if you are allowed to hit birthdays, but seeing as you managed it:

BOFF! take that! *takes that back, boy bands are not what i need right now* THUMP!*takes that back, cruelty to kangas, i will have Ivan after me* SPLAT*hurls; ah, that seems to be politically correct...retires to make passata...

zdt

*giggles*

The other night, me, Helen (52i think) Karen(35yr old mum to be) & me (49 soon to clobber 50) were discussing how wonderful it is that once you become "une femme d'un certain age" the sell by dates of the willy bearing population start dissolving. We had an interesting discussion of "what's the biggest age gap you've had?" which rather shocked the assorted males. Helen won "Ah, last week, 18 yr old on Eurostar!



zdt

Oh My!!

Yup, i should think one or both probably said that at some stage!

But interesting discussion ensued, if it's the "Mile High" club in the loo on a plane, what on earth is it in the loo under the Channel Tunnel???

Man of la Manche?
River deep, mountin' high?

Us ladies(ahem, loose term)had animated conversation on this, the frogmen (ah! that could be useful; let's stay off the subject of diving shall we)sat in stunned silence. I think we worry them a bit. Good. Shouldn't be so bloody nice looking then should they!

zdt

Blues? But you run h2g2 from the ground up!

My Dad keeps moaning about not having any grandkids yet, and my 30th birthday is approaching, but the chap I'm seeing... well, lets just say I'm not ready for kids yet... I do feel the ticking and the tock of the proverbial clock though... I'm thinking maybe adoption at some later stage... once I have my life sorted out a bit and actually settle in one country...

Mort: my mum had my youngest brother when she was 44, there's plenty of time for you yet!

*hugs*

In the mean time, do you like chocolate?

Mort 35 you should know that the glass is never half full and never half empty.

be glad there is something in the glass, because need something drink you drink something to drink!