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I am 45 minutes late but it is the 2 year anniversary of me getting in touch with my birth mother

Yippee!Have some more

Are you going to contact her & wish her the same? (probably not right now since i guess it's 1am there!)

zdt

Yey!

I sent her an email earlier this evening.

I also remembered to send her a 'thinking of you' card and allowed extra time for the slow Edinburgh post, so she should have got it Friday or Saturday.

Last year i sent her a bouquet of flowers - but iam too poor this year.

I can't believe it has been 2 years already.

"I can't believe it has been 2 years already"

In fact I can't believe any of it!

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Do you have much contact with her now?

Sorry the phrase "cottaging" got me...the actual event is no laughing matter!

That's wonderful Mort. I think it's delightful that it's worked out for you and that you have two year's claim and hopefully many more. Well done

Kat

Congratulations, Mort. I hope you two like each other and will enjoy mutual affection in many years to come.

Congratulations, Mort!

Sorry, running a bit late...

Thanks!

>Ideno "Do you have much contact with her now?"

We email each other every weekend and have done webcam and messenger.

It does of course mean that I get told off twice as much!
She tells me I spend too much time on h2g2

She sends me birthday and Christmas presents and her parents send something too.
Her folks sent me a CDRom a couple of weeks ago with family snap shots of a recent holiday, some of L when she was younger and some of my half sister S who is coming up to 8.

L is only (just) 16 years older than me so we do chat quite openly about things, almost like friends or sisters would.
I have also been open about being ill from the start too. I figured take it or leave it - this is me.

I think if I had got to know her first then I would be too scared to tell her now as I would be afraid it would put her off. But by telling her at the begining then she is accepting me warts and all. It was a big risk but it paid off.

We fancy the same men as well - Patrick Stewart, Jon Bon Jovi, Bowie

You hear so many stories about adopted kids tracing their birth parents and not being able to be part of their lives. I was prepared for that, so can't believe it has worked out so well.

Even 2 years on, I still find it hard to believe that this is real and not a dream. I have been so lucky.

It does sound very good.

The only person I've known who was adopted was a cousin of mine - her mum married my dad's brother, had a child, then adopted her sister's child, perhaps because she was young, I'm not sure, then had another child, so there were three.

There was a big to-do when the sister came along from Wales and wanted her kid back years later. My cousin stayed though. She would have been her brothers' cousin, but not mine anymore.

My Gran adopted her nephew when his mum died when he was a tiny baby - they were from Wales too, but not related to the other lot.

Anyway, not sure why I'm blathering about that, it's just the only experience I've had with adoption has all been 'kept in the family', so there's been no need to search for family.

That is good that there was extended family to step in. Complicated family tree though!

Coincidently last week was National Adoption Week.

When I was born it was just after terminations (hate the word abortion) became legal (or the laws were relaxed) in 1968 - I think. I suppose it was still less common for a girl to go for one over adoption, so little white babies weren't as rare as they are these days.

I was adopted at birth - well I went into foster care for a couple of months while the paperwork was done, and then my parents picked me up when I was about 16 weeks old I think. So for me, my parents are my parents and since I had always known they 'chose' me then it was as normal to me as having brown eyes.

I don't want to say too much on here for obvious reasons but I recently found out I was with my birthmum for 5 days before I was taken and I know it was incredibly painful for her - and she was just a frightened girl herself.

The whole process is so different these days with 'open adoptions' etc.

congratulations lass may you have many more

From what age do you know you were adopted?

Congratulations from another Adopted person!

I have always known I was Adopted. My family have always been open and honest with me and my brother who is also adopted.

Nice to meet you, Highlander

I have an adopted brother too, he is 2 and a half years older than me.

krabatt - I have always known I was adopted. There wasn't a day when I was sat down and told. Just like other little kids that asked 'where did I come from?' so did I. I just got a different answer.

I see. Well, I hope I do. I've got to think about it.

Gawd; is it really two years! Amazing how time flies!! I remember you talking about plucking up courage to make contact; so glad you did, so glad it went well.

"spend too much time on hootoo" hmmf; get her on here & addicted, quick!

By the way; call me naive (i am far from it!) but i have missed out on some phrases; what exactly *is* cottaging? Obviously bonking of some sort; but specifically what (watch out for mods; not too graphic!)

zdt