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Recently i was with my Gf and her guy friend was also there with her cause he had to drive her just to see me. Well after she had left her friend told her that i did the finger at him. And my Gf got heaps angry for wat she thinks that i did but to be honest i didnt do anything. Now she wants to break up with me for something i havent done, im being crucified for something i didnt do. She doesnt beleive me when i told her that i didnt do it. She believes her friend but not me and im her Bf. Now she wants to end things with me over that. The worst thing about this is that im about to loose my GF for something i havent done wrong. I thought for a relationship to work there has to be trust but she doesnt trust anything i say. But iv told her the truth and she still doesnt believe me.
GIVE ME ADVICE ON WHAT I SHOULD DO OR SAY?
THX DEEPLY LOST

Hi, Researcher 209482, and welcome to h2g2 - the unconventional guide to Life, the Universe, and Everything. It's great to see that you've taken the time to sign up to h2g2, and I'm sad to hear that you're having a hard time of it at the moment.

If your girlfriend doesn't trust you, it makes life very difficult. I'm no expert on these things, but I just wanted to say that you have to take time to calm down - go out and buy some comfort food, or cook some if you've got time - and give things time to fall into perspective.

You just need to keep going with whatever you think best. If you need to take your mind off things, why not read some of the Guide - it can be very therapeutic.

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I'm sorry to hear that.

A relationship is built on trust, and without it, there is no real future for it. Sounds harsh I know. Having said that, if you have only got together recently, trust is something that is built over time. She has possily known her friend for longer than you, so that trust is already there. Therefore, she takes his word over yours.

My suggestion would be to try one more time to convince that you are not lying, and then, if she doesn't believe, you need to accept it and move on. This other guy seems intent on breaking you up, and it seems like you are fighting a losing battle.

Chin up man. things can get better. I know, I've been there.

Simulpost there Whoami?

Hmmm... I've seen this sort of thing happen time after time... it's hard when it happens, as you said trust is the basis for any relationship and if your Gf won't trust you then it sounds like something is wrong. Of course some times it can be explained. If shes known this bloke for a long time (longer than she's known you), or if she has trusted him in the past she is likely to believe him. She may not want to accept that he could lie to her about you and so take it as the truth. IF I were you I'd try and talk it over with her... maybe give it a few days to let stuff settle down. If she still won't listen to you then there's v. little you can do... Thee problem is even if you do manage to talk to her and she eventually believes you are telling the truth it now suggests that another of her friends is lieing to her... its a hard situation to be in... just try and talk to her about it. Hope it all works out.

~Skenvoy

Do you have any idea why this guy said something that wasn't true? Perhaps it might be a good idea to have a talk with him. Don't accuse him, that'll just make things worse, but see if it's not all just a misunderstanding. If it is and the guy admits that, everything's smooth again.
By the way, heartiest welcomes!

Welcome to h2g2 209482. I'll just throw my .02 in with everyone else's. First, rather than assuming the friend is lying is it possible it's just a misunderstanding? Maybe when you waved or whatever he thought you were doing something else. It's better to start by assuming nobody is lying rather than instantly deciding he's trying to break you two up.

I agree with Bob that you should try talking to him and coming to some sort of understanding first. No accusing. No arguing. If he really is trying to sabotage the relationship this will be when you find out.

If that fails and your gf really still takes his word and wants to break up with you then it is time to move on. While you can try to figure out why she is believing him over you there's really no point trying to patch things up with someone who does not and will not trust you. Plus since you're just meeting her best friend is it correct to guess you haven't been together all that long? That being the case she's not exactly giving you the benefit of the doubt.

Sometimes it can be difficult when someone you're involved with has a best friend of the opposite sex. My bf's best friend is a woman and my best friend is a man so I can relate to a certain extent. Fortunately it's not a problem for us as I really like his best friend and think he'll like mine when he meets him (my best friend lives half a country away these days). However it could easily have been different and I have had problems with men I've dated who haven't uh... cared for the fact that my best friend is a man.

Hi there thx for ur reply and ur advice. My gf confronted the guy and he had a smirk in his face when she told him that we were breaking up then she relised that he made it all up because he said that i wasnt the type of guy that was good enough 4 her. I think he got all jealous because he was watching my GF & I gettin full on and he probably got jealous. But 4 now where tryin to patch things up and we both know that itll take time b4 our relationship is back to normal again.
Again thx for ur advice

Hi there thx for ur reply and ur advice. My gf confronted the guy and he had a smirk in his face when she told him that we were breaking up then she relised that he made it all up because he said that i wasnt the type of guy that was good enough 4 her. I think he got all jealous because he was watching my GF & I gettin full on and he probably got jealous. But 4 now where tryin to patch things up and we both know that itll take time b4 our relationship is back to normal again.
Again thx for ur advice

Good to hear!

That's wonderful news! Perhaps in a way this will be good. It may show her who to trust in the future. Good luck.

Good to hear

~Skenvoy