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My sister is not the happiest of people, and my mum thinks it might be some psychological effect caused by her adoption. As her older sibling, i was just wondering if there were any big issues that might come up between two sisters when one is adopted and one is not. i have never thought of her as anything less than a blood relative, but would like any opinions on this matter.

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Hi I know this is a very late reply, but maybe i can help. I am adopted. I was brought up with a non blood brother. Had i have been brought up with a brother that was related to the adopted parents i think i would have felt left out. I understand this would have not been done on purpose but as an adopted child you do feel slightly different. At times of difficulty i would have used this an excuse. I never wanted to find my natural parents but felt forced into the situation by my daughter being very poorly. This is now something i do not regret as i have been very lucky to find both parents. If you click on to my name at the top you will find my story. Some of it sad some happy. If you need to speak no prob! Diane

Thanks for the advice... it's much better now, thankfully. I think it was an insecure phase she went through, and now she's happy with herself again

I am pleased things have calmed down for her, and for you too. I was told last week that being adopted was a bit like being a cuckoo!!! Now don't laugh as i really think this is very true. A cuckoo lays her eggs in anothers birds nest say for eg a starling. Once the hatches out it then thinks its a starling (but its not and never will be) so whilst this is growing up it trys to mimick the lifestyle and charasterics of a starling, but once it has fled the nest it then becomes a cuckoo and then she will lay her eggs in another nest too. So when we have been adopted we try very hard, perhaps too hard to become like those around us, when in actual fact it is not until times of unhappiness or feeling unsecure that we actually end up finding ourselves. May all good luck be with you all and if ever you wish to talk again no prob. Diane x