A Conversation for The Rules of Courtly Love

Can't agree with it all...

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Connie L

I am affraid I can't agree with all those axioms. Expecially the ones about "no-one can love two persons at a time" : if you have sibblings, aren't you able to love them all ? Or a mother all her children ? And it is my opinion that there are no "different kinds of love" that may explain why you love all you children but can only love one wife/husband...
Polyamory folks make it their way of life to be able to share love and intimacy with more then one partner, without cheating on anybody, in transparence and through a very mature type of relationship.

As for the link these statements make between love and desire : I am very much in love with my boyfriend, but I can have (as most men do, and probably women too, but to a lesser extent if I believe some of my girl friends) physical attraction ans sexual desire toward someone else ; whether I act on this desire or not, and how, is a matter related to our couple's agreement on how we interact with others as a couple and as individuals. But even without acting, the desire is here, and does not diminished the love I have for my partner(s). Desire is not love.

Hope someone can comment ?

smiley - divaC.L.


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