h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Good to see you, too abbi. I think I read that you are better equipped now with P.C.
I did short-mail you once, a while back and got no response, though it didn't warrant one. I do come back to h2g2, from time to time, so that I can know you are on form. If Hyp. can stir a few of us again, I will try to post a bit more.

How's your studio....are you managing a few masterpieces! And the back-yard, any joy with that?

Not sure why this thread is called "nones" Perhaps I should go back to the start.

Back soon, take care,

love,

Ed.X

I checked back in my email and the last link you sent me gave me a blank page. I could have sworn I wrote you then, so sorry if I did not.
I was without a computer for quite a while afterwards except for a rare day here and there.

The house is nearing completion.
My *studio is still a sorting area but I can see the end is near.
I will be happy if I have my art space for the coldest of winter days.
When I was a child and it rained for days on end or was too cold I did artworkIt is fitting during a hibernation mode.

Two weeks since I've writ to a "none"
Rushing to work, sleep and fun
Can't seem to slow
down, don't you know
But at least an attempt has begun

Running late, it's time to go
You all understand, this I know
Back soon to chat
Or to sit with my cat
Or just bask in a warm fire's glow



YB

*waves*
Nicely put YB!

The garden so peaceful and quiet
Away from the outside world's riot
Escape from the din
A calm look within
And rest for the soul if you try it



YB

lovely, YB. Thank you for that.

I definitely must start writing poetry again. It has a way of creating focus and stripping away the excess baggage.

Today is my wedding anniversary. I announced on another thread that this was the last of the firsts. But it isn't. I was leaving out the day of his death, which is 2 weeks away. His memorial service was so positive and uplifting, that that particular date won't be as sad to remember as it might have been. So, soon the first year will be history and then we'll see if it is true that things get easier.

Hi Hy,
I wasn't aware that you were grieving the death of your husband. I am very sorry to hear about it. I am relatively inexperienced with that kind of loss. Probably the closest I have come is when I experienced the loss of my first wife. It was divorce that took her and not death though. In my grief at the time I imagined it to be worse than had she died because of the additional humiliation and rejection I experienced. Not only was she gone, but it was because she WANTED to be gone. I see now how selfish that point of view was but I never was a master at handling grief. It took me longer than it needed to to recover from that loss. I medicated with alcohol and wallowed in self pity and pain for four years. Finally I had to part with alcohol as well. But with the loss of this great love I had support, community and direction. I began to get well and began to recover from my divorce too.
This is my story and I don't presume to equate it with yours. I tell it because in the first year of my recovery from alcoholism, I kept bumping into things I had never encountered sober before. Lots of first times.(Christmas,summer,weekends,etc.) As time went on I got more used to my new situation and was able to increasingly appreciate what was IN my life rather than what was missing.
You sound to me like one who is on a healing track rather than one who is stuck in a neverending cycle of misery like I was after my divorce. Keep talking it out and I believe it will get easier.

For what it's worth,

YB

Since I posted already elsewhere Hypatia -

I will repeat how you have a lot of friends herewho feel lucky to know you. We are here no matter your moods, just like you are for others.

You have a good head on your shoulders
Comes in handy all around and makes you interesting to read

Melon Colic

The laughing spirit, if you so wish.
A fanciful array of fruit, that allows you to regroup.

I thought I lost my sense of humor, surely I merely misplaced it!
I thought I'd spent all my luck but surprise ,bad luck is free though of no immediate harm to me.

After a while it is hard to tell the good from the bad.
Must be one of those things only time will tell ,once had.

Wishing to dash , suffering a rash, me thinks little of all this trash.
So will you clean up?
Make a fuss, removing the dust and rust, from just the top crust?

I hope to find that misplaced humor behind.
There was no need for a safe place , a tight place, a dry place,
a right place or a wrong place.

There is a blank space where my expression once was.
That's it!
Move.
Now.
I must complete my groom with a wisk and a prune,
all in the right tune,
before there's complete ruin.

OOps
signed, Vogon Poet

Interesting poem Ms. Normal
'Tis wild, and free and informal
Full of meaning galore
A style to adore
With rhymes from sublime to abnormal



YB

Great reply!
Thanks YB

Merry Christmas my friends, and good wishes
Rest in peace, if you sleep with the fishes
Let the solstice sun shine
Your Kwanzaa be devine
And may somebody help with the dishes

HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!



YB

YB.

I would like to propose a holiday toast.....May the new year reunite us with absent friends and bring new friends into our lives.

Hypatia

Cheers!



YB

Cheers Hypatia and Yoga Biker!

*the once a year Baileys Irish Creme in cup*

*wonders if another toast is coming!*

Well, the hollidays are over for most, if not all of us.

No more large celebrations ahead until-



!!!!!!!!!!!!!GROUNDHOGS DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




YB


(That's February 2nd in America. I don't know what the date is in Metric)

Hi Everyone,

Going back to the grief thing...I've been widowed and divorced (please, no cries of 'show off!') and I think, on the whole, divorce was worst for me.

Widowhood was awful and numbing and so hard because it is true what Auden says in the poem about wanting all the clocks to stop - it's horrific that the world just goes on when half of you has been torn away. It's incomprehensible.

But I could go on loving him despite the agonies of other people not knowing what to say to me or do with me - and all the 'don't crys' when I really, really needed to cry!

With divorce, the bit about 'you chose to leave me' is a different category but I thought harder. And also the dividing of the friends; the having to watch what you say - some of your friends are 'leavers' who can't handle someone who's left - and some of your friends are 'left' and want you to sink down further into a mire of all men/women are b******.

Five years on from divorce I still can't say 'it was all worth it' even though I don't have a problem with the ex and see him regularly as an acquaintance at a night class.

Even a few days after widowhood (we were married one year 15 years ago) I could say - and mean - that it was worth it; just to have had that time of wonderful love.



P.S. Got married again last year - and am very happy. So hope for us all.

Hi Maggy. Welcome to the Circle.

Divorce is something I haven't experienced, so I have no personal knowledge of it's emotional toll. But from observing couples that divorce, I imagine it can be terribly traumatic. Especially when children are involved. My mother's first marriage ended in divorce - before I was born. Then she was single for about 5 years before she married my dad. They were married for 51 years when he died. So there certainly is the possibility for a long-lasting relationship following a divorce.

Grief is tricky. I feel very uncomfortable talking about my feelings to most people. So I'm trying to work through my own emotions without imposing them on everyone else. I did post something in my journal - which I know abbi has seen . I think it helped to just talk about it. But I am really hesitant to open up about it - afraid that I'll chase people away, I suppose.