h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

... to paraphrase long-forgotten popsters Airhead:

funny how blokes you fall in love with never fancy you
funny how those you don't, do

Too many uninteresting suitors; still, it's good for the ego (although sometimes I wonder what I must project, since I seem to attract mostly sad cases.)

Danced my backside off last night into the wee hours. Was lucky enough to bump into the bloke who was my favourite dancing partner in my Uni years. We'd always sort of fancied each other, a light sexual tension that had always been unexplored because he was seeing the girl he later married. He's not married to her anymore, and we stuck to each other like two magnets for the best part of the night, just dancing, dancing, dancing like the world was going to end, like we were Fred and Ginger except it was a fancy dress party and I'd come as Britney Spears in the "Baby One More Time" video, so I wasn't wearing high heels.

It was such good fun. I didn't realise I'd missed dancing with him for all these years. He's about the only person I know whose inner rhythm matches mine. It was good to see him, too, after such a long time, and get the updates and sit on the floor talking.

And I'm a lot better-looking than I was in my college years, of course. (He hasn't changed. He was sexy then, he's sexy now.)

A long-overdue get-together, most definitely.

Congratulations Greta

Hit me baby one more time is the school girl one, isn't it?

To Greta, I'm glad to see that someone is have a good time in the world not to damper your mood but mine has not been going as good as I like it to be so thou I figure thing's will smooth out so I can start dating again & all that good stuff I'll write to you later. your post give's me hope. From your pikey over the sea pikey82.

Hey Pikey, I know all about being heartbroken and mistrustful and mangled... I still am, to a degree; but that doesn't really stop me from having a good time. I was really glad I bumped into a long-lost friend, and it was good to resolve some of the unresolved sexual tension. I'm glad it means something to you. Yes, we do heal eventually; I'm still on the road to recovery, but I hope and pray there will be a tomorrow and I will be able to start dating again, too.

Rocket Man, yeah, that is the schoolgirl video. I went as Catholic schoolgirl, but I did end up looking like Britney... it was the best I could do with what I had in my wardrobe, since I wasn't planning to dress up for this year's Carnival. The outfit was quite a success, though!

Hi Greta, way to go!have some fun for a change!
Smudger.

Hey Greta...

You dont know me, but then I dont know you either...


Just got onto H2G2 recently....all as part of 'what do I do now that I'm single again? oh, ok...this community seems quite cool' Was reading what you had to say and couldnt agree more about the part re how even unattractive people chasing us give us an ego massage.

Oh, and I met up with someone after a few million years too.....

Sadly though, thought she wasnt as cool as I remember her to be ...Oh, well...here's to hope....

Join the club I also joined H2g2 after two consecutive breakups, and have made my love life the subject of discussion, the same way as people talk about astrology, or politics, or pottery (well, maybe not pottery). None of my RL friends know about this page, except for one person who's probably forgotten all about it, so I can be as candid as I want to.

I feel I've done a lot of growing since I joined the place, which only goes to show that it's never too late to become an adult

Now, if I could only start attracting the good-looking ones, and lose the sad cases...

Hi Greta and folks, Its nice to see more people coming in and adding their input into this great stringI for one have really benefited from all the conversations we have had, it has made me appreciate the things that I hold close to me better than I had been.BTW Greta did you read "Wondered" yet?
Smudger.

Out of curiosity...merely because I seek solutions to my problems too.......how do you convince yourself that its over? For me, we have lots of friends in common, so we meet up all the time. I've tried all kinds of things....taking up tennis, flirting shamelessly with people I've just met...catching up on old flames, pampering myself by going berserk in a bookstore....its works some of the time, but not all of the time. Any other remedies anyone can suggest?

Also, I keep giving myself this guilt trip about whether I should've spotted this coming....she says she kept hinting at the fact that this wasnt gonna happen.....but I guess I was just too caught up in the whole thing.......how does one take a step back and learn to look at relationships practically? I know I sound like a love-sick fool, but believe me, thats exactly what it felt like for sometime. Still feels terrible when I see her with her new guy.

I can relate to everything you say because I've been through it, and am still going through it to a certain degree. My ex came to see me last night, and all I can say is that the bad feelings are starting to fade. Last night it was exactly one year from the split, and our anniversary to boot, but I was OK. I was OK talking about his girlfriend and my non-boyfriends, I was OK talking about almost everything.

What I can say is, you're doing all the right things. Going out, flirting, taking up a hobby, the lot. Time will do the rest. It takes a while, the road to recovery isn't always smooth and there are incidents, but you live, you learn... and you get better, eventually.

It's the norm and you're not a lovesick fool. You did nothing wrong. It's just the way things happen. You cannot look at love practically. It's not like money or DIY: love makes us very vulnerable.

Sending a your way, I feel your pain and I know that it's not forever.

On Love:
http://www.columbia.edu/~gm84/gibran2.html

Love is rare... it'd be easier if it were just something you can follow on a whim, but the hard truth is, you have to be careful with your heart and who you give it to.

If someone took all the love away
The world would grow all dark
And lovers would drift their seperate
Leaving echoes in the lonely park
To one & all, Smudger.

If someone took all the love away
The world would grow all dark
And lovers would drift their seperate ways
Leaving echoes in the lonely park
To one & all, Smudger.

Goodness, Smudger, you sure have a way of killing conversations. What are we supposed to reply to that?

Seriously, though. I suppose that for everything there is a season, and I understand that your season feels a lot more peaceful than mine. I suppose I will be as contented and quiet and dreamy as you when hormones stop controlling my love life

AH! Greta, Its not that the hormones stop controling your life, its just that as you get older the hormones are easier to control
Sorry about killing the conversation, dont know what came over me? that just popped into my head for some reason. Thers an ACE who is going to help me jazz up that piece Wondered with me, so it will look different As far as me being content & dreamy, I think its because Ive got too much time on my hands these days, so I tend to look back rather than forward! Is that a bad thing, you reckon?
Smudger.

Not bad and not surprising either. Hopefully you have a lot of fond memories to re-live. I've got some, but I still think the best is yet to come, my ship hasn't come in yet, I haven't come into my own, and so forth. The road is still long and winding, I have some more time to go before I start looking back.

Spoke to my sister, she turns 26 today, she's a bit paranoid about getting old. I say this is due to the fact that she's single for the first time in a few years, and she's starting to hear the old biological clock ticking... told her that you stop worrying after you hit thirty, because there, you're not in your twenties anymore, no more dreading the end of your youth. You're thirty and you're still young. And to hell with everything else.

I'm glad I bought her a Hello Kitty! make-up bag and a one-shouldered top, at any rate.

(Can you tell I've been in touch with my random snog from last Saturday? It's not looking like anything, but it's an improvement on the touch-and-go encounters of the past year.)

Hi Greta, Wish your sister a happy birthday for me, and tell her that you are as young as you feel, Its a fact that you know, coz I dont feel the age Im supposed to be. OK I do until the pain killers work. Ah! Yes Glasshopper< I can tell that youve been in touch with Random Snogger It is the way you write about your future, and about this ship thats not yet come in. As far as my ship goes ITS SUNK!Ah! but mine was a submarine
Smudger.

Funnily enough, when I think "ship" I think "getting more books published", and not "pairing off", I kid you not. I trust my writing abilities more than the luck it takes to bump into a guy who will love me. And anyway, he might leave. Whereas, writing and publishing books, once I've established myself, is something I can just keep on doing. It's my own thing.

Hey! way to go,I never knew you wrote booksnow that is a skill all on its own!What have you had published recently? Its really but I have never read books. well just specs. and standards ect. when I was a welding inspector. Never any what you would call books. Even when I was at sea I used to do calligraphy, that passed any spare time I had,(which was not a lot)Well there you go, you learn somrhting every day Eh!