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Bombshell last night. J wants see to someone else. He says he "will come to see me and talk about things. But not this week"

Lots of assertions that he knew he had been a *&*%@***## and that I did not deserve this after all I'd done to support and help him, and that I didn't deserve to be treated this way. He also feels he can't offer me anything..... (I told him what he had given me over the course of our relationship). Even so what will he offering this other person then? He loves me (eh?)..... Maybe he needs time....

2 weeks ago I was invited to visit the new home. we had a lovely time together. A lot of mutual love and affection, I was asked if to stay an extra night! No sign of anything wrong, a happy time, and we were getting on well.

Total logic deficit here I think.

Apparently they have been talking to each other on the phone for about 3 months. They only saw each other for the first time since their first meeting on friday. What???

A lot of pain, anger, anguish. We have to discuss this.

I don't understand

Oh dear oh dear oh dear.

*sniff* Thanks Dr V. I needed that.
Mad as it sounds, I'm going to phone him tonight and try to arrange meeting him to talk. I'm hoping to sort it out for friday night, or next week.

It's a long shot, but I want to find out why if I can, and try and persuade him to change his mind, but given his behaviour, I don't think that will be happening. But I have to try.

Well, we spoke last night. He won't come on friday because he's working at head office and then going away for the weekend (Guess where). He will try and and come next week.

I did ask him not see the other person until we had talked, but obviously that's not realistic

I just hurt.

Are you absolutely sure you want him to change his mind? Sounds to me like you deserve better...

I know I deserve better, but, fool that I am, I do actually love him.

I have to point out, that before he was ill with depression we actually had a very close loving relationship and we were hoping to sort things out to move in together. This behaviour is not the man that I know and love, but that said, he has done what he has done. I think he is still depressed to a degree, but it's no excuse.

Thanks for being there Dr V. I appreciate it