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Post 1

Arisztid Lugosi

hello there jsut dropping you a line.... well actually that sounds too much like i'm inviting you fishing... and i'm not any good at fishing. i never catch anything, while i sit around holding my rod tightly in anticipation and watching every one esle catch fish.

well and now for the real reason i'm here. i was about to add you to my friends list and then i realized that i hadnt yet read you're page... and then i got caught up in that and i still havent added you to my friends list, but i will as soon as i do this. so you asked me to say something, and that it was too quiet... so here i am... saying something.

i noticed that we have quite a lot in common. i looked at you likes and dislikes and found that i agree wiht most if not all of them... i cant exactly remember what they all were... but anyway i mostly agree with the one about not likeing seeing good people getting screwed over. i really dont like that. but unfortunately it seems to be a part of life. like the world spins round each day and each day some good person gets screwed over. not a very nice thing to think about is it? oh well...

interesting... i'm reading all of this and thinking that its really quite amazing. you'd never guess that in RL i'm an incredably shy person would you. i certaily would notice... and i also happen to agree that the best conversations happen at 3 in the morning. by 5 i'm jsut a little to tired to be coherent. but at about 3 i for some reason become very creative and jsut the other night i wrote a very nice story... but now i'm starting to ramble... its about11:00 pm here, maybe thats why... anyways i'm off to add you to my friends list....


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Post 2

Arisztid Lugosi

aha!!! finally! i kept trying to reply to some of your journals and everytime i tried i ended up at the front page...smiley - erm quite odd and quite frusterating. so here i am again. sorry about all the new posts you'll have when you get back. but tonight i was bored and so i decided to come and check out your journals. so here i am again.

"I wish I could write about positive stuff in this journal, instead of using it to vent. Am I a negative person? Am I the only person who sees this? Why can't karma be real?" form your journal entry chairs and ears. or something like that...
ok well i try to write positive things in my journal but in the end theres always some sort of rant in there somewhere. so i've been putting off writing annother becasue i dont want to be annoying...smiley - erm. maybe you are a negative person, but if this is what makes you negative then that also makes me a negative person. so i dont really think so. and you're not the only one who sees this. and i think karma is a very very wonderful idea but that it cant be real because the world is to corrupt and unfair.

but now i'm going to leave you alone... and give you a chance to deal with all the posts i've made allready.smiley - smiley


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Post 3

Jerms - a Brief flicker and then gone again.

I thought actually catching fish was supposed to spoil a good day's fishing? smiley - huh

It would be great if Karma were true; good stuff would happen to good people and eventually people not being nice would just... not happen. Darwinian evolution would breed it out! smiley - cool

"...in RL i'm an incredibly shy person..." You too, huh? smiley - winkeye

Nooo! Don't go! smiley - grovel I don't want to be left alone. I'm almost always alone, and I hate it. Having so many posts to catch up on has been the best distraction ever!... Except I think this is the last reply I'll be able to make today, which means I have to give in and do my assignment.


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Post 4

Arisztid Lugosi

well i wont go. after all, us shy people got to stick to gether smiley - smiley
in fact you may never get rid me.

i dont understand that about fishing. i'd want to catch something...
are you any good at bowling? i only ask because i was just out wiht a few friends and i've discovered that i totally suck. i mean really, i lost all three games. and i felt a little uncomfortable because one of my friends asked his friend who in turn brought his girlfriend. and i dont like her very much. shes really flaky. and as soon as she saw me i saw her looking me up and down.... i hate it when people do that. i think its so rude. and well it makes me feel uncomfortabale....

i'm going to bed now its about midnight here and after my bowling experience i'm pretty tired. so i'm going to say good night now and i'll reply to the rest of your posts in the morning.smiley - smiley it'll give me something ot look foreward to.

night smiley - hug


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Post 5

Jerms - a Brief flicker and then gone again.

"In fact you may never get rid me." Yay! smiley - biggrin

I assume by bowling you mean ten-pin bowling? I haven't done it for years. I don't think I was ever much good at it, but I always seemed to enjoy it. I think it was just good company. Makes all the difference. smiley - ok

At least she wasn't /your/ girlfriend! You don't have to put up with her! smiley - laugh
What do you mean by 'flaky'? I think I know, but not certain what the word means.

Hope you slept well babe. smiley - zzz


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Post 6

Arisztid Lugosi

yep. i meant ten pin bowling. sorry i should have been clearer.
i'm lousy at bowling. but for the most part everyone was very nice. the flaky girl ignored me. and the annoying girl that i felt obliged to invite was very mean to me. she pretty much made fun of me about my bowling skills both to my face and behind my back. all the things she said was more just her saying things to me and my knowing her too well and knowing what she was getting at. she's a real dillemma of mine. if you dont mind a largeish rant then i meay ask for some advise. but if you dont want to hear it then i wont tell you...

by flakey i mean... well first of all shes one of the popular girls. which pretty much says it all. shes only concerned about looks and make up and superfical things like that. exactly the kind of person that would look you up and down. not the kind of person i can really be bohterd wiht. it wasnt good to have her there for a number of reasons. the biggest one not being that i dont like her but that my friend likes her boyfriend...smiley - erm i felt badly for her. but no one knows that but me, so no one knew not to invite her...

i did sleep well, thanks Jerms. my dad woke me up way too early this morning though. and its looking like annother long night. but thats good because this is going to be long becaue i'm talking to you....


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Post 7

Jerms - a Brief flicker and then gone again.

smiley - grr I dislike bitchy people. I wish I could have been there for you.

However I don't mind rants. Go right ahead. smiley - ok

And hang on, I'm confused. What time is it over there now? I must have got something wrong, because I thought you said it was 7:45pm anly about four hours ago, and now you're getting out of bed? smiley - huh


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Post 8

Arisztid Lugosi

oh! sorry i was talking about this morning. right now its about11:45 pm.

i wish you could have been there too. it might have been funner. and then i could have met you... but anyway. maybe next timesmiley - winkeye i meay need somwone to forcibly restrain me from tripping her or something...

you dont mind rants? well here goes.
ok well i met her last year. and i thought she was a new kid because she didnt seem to have any friends and i'd never seen her before. so i decided to be nice to her and ask her to eat lunch wiht me. well that was a big mistake. i've been 'friends wiht her for about 2 years now. and shes so annoying. it turns out that shes actually a grade lower than me and is jsut really smart. which explains her being in my math 10H class. she gets perfect on almost everything. but it seems that when god was dising out the brains she got in line twice but forgot to get in the social grace line. i used to feel sorry for her but its rather gone beyond all that now. for a while i ate luch with her by myself and had stopped eating wiht my friends, or aquantiances. but all she ever does is complain. its like she doenst know how to make any conversation so she jsut complains about whatever she can think of. shes a serious competitive swimmer. and so she went to a swim meet for a while and i got to go and eat wiht my friends again. by the time she came back i'd realized what i was missing. so i told her that i was going to eat with them and she was welcome ot come. she was a little huffy about it, but as she has no ohter friends there wanst really annother option for her. so she came. and has contimued to drive everyone crazy by only ever complaining. eventually she discivered that we were all going out to the movies or dinner, or bowling, and there were partys being thrown and she started to notice that she wasnt invited. i suppose she never noticed because i never used to get invited either. but my getting invited is annother long story that perhaps i'll tell later. so one day she was telling me what she'd noticed. and i made the mistake of telling her why that was. well she asked me to tell her. so i did.i told her that maybe if she didnt complain so much and she found other things in common whith people she could be better friends wht them. and in the end she was relly mad and accused me of trying to change her for my benefit. which doesnt really make sence. because i dont need her... and i was trying to help her. but whatever. knowing that she feels friendless and excluded i decided to have her over to my house. bad idea. i got to listen to her compalin about not wanting ot go to school. and i cant really blame her for that but is was in what she said and the way she said it. she told me that she supposed that she'd have to hang out wiht me and my friends. she acted like it was the bigest chore in the world. and i asked her why she was going to do that. and it turns out taht her only other friend, who is her age, has started hanging out wiht people that she apparently considers under her. and she seems to think that for no good reason. its just because they have the reputaion for being the uncool kids... and that made me kinda mad... but whatever. in an effort to avoid haveing a sleepover with her i decided to invite her bowling wiht all my 'friends'. but it was a bad idea. she beat me every game and it turns out that shes a poor winner. she said mean things about me behind my back to my friends. and to my face she made remarks like 'well just throw the ball normally'. which isnt very helpful. and she says mean things about my friends when she can ill afford to, seeing as they're being really nice and restraining them selves in saying some things they might like to. and now i really dont know what to do... i dont really want to hang out wiht her anymore. and yet at the same time i feel sorry for her, and i dont want to her to be friendless. i know what thats like and i really dont want to do it to someone else. but shes clinging and she wont fly on her own. so i really dont know what to do. but anyway i think thats the end of my rant

thanks for listening smiley - hug


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Post 9

Jerms - a Brief flicker and then gone again.

Ah I see. smiley - ok

Okay so let me see if I've got this right... basically she complains too much, and the only friends she has now are those that can put up with her. So now /she's/ socially insecure and tries to make herself look better by putting you down in front of other people. She's jealous that you get to go to parties or bowling or whatever, and she doesn't get invited. She got you to tell her why, and then /as a defense mechanism/ she tried to pretend it was your fault not hers.
Also she's insecure enough that she's openly grudging about having to put up with the company of anyone she considers 'beneath her'.

If I've got that right, it seems she has some real insecurity issues. Sure she's smart but she has trouble relating to people, because she also has an inferiority complex.
Sounds to me like she needs to start writing a diary to get all her complaining out of her without having to bug anyone else about it. And then she'll find herself more socially active and will treat others better. She also needs to find people that she thinks she can relate to, and hang out with them too, so she won't be so snobbish about you and your friends.
First step: subtly encourage her to keep a diary of some form. If you were me, I'd start talking about H2G2 and try to get her interested in a daily journal of sorts. If possible.

Hope that helps. Even if I'm wrong, I hope you feel better for telling me. smiley - cuddle


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Post 10

Arisztid Lugosi

smiley - cuddle
thanks Jerms.i do feel better for talking about it. ans its good advise. but after her getting all mad at me i'm not sure that i want to try making suggestions... i keep a journal. a paper one, not the one on hootoo. and it really does help. how do you figure shes got an inferiority complex? i'm intrigued.... oh and by the way you've got it right. i'm not sure how to encourage her to hang out with other people. becasue she seems kinda snobby about everyone....smiley - erm so i dont know how to do that. sometimes i feel it might jsut be best for her to let her go and fly on her own. on the other hand if she was like, say, a baby bird and i let go then she mihgt not fly... but i dont mean that she'll crash and die or anything... it was jsut a sort of example...


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