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January 7, 2004

Post 1

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Today is the anniversary of my Mom's death.

Faye Pauline Justice
Born August 22nd, 1934
Died January 7, 2000


smiley - roseI miss ya, Mom smiley - rose



Ironically enough, it's also the anniversary of the day I originally blew out my wrist. I got the news she'd died while I was on the road, and nearly wrecked my truck. Injured the wrist wrestling with the steering wheel.




Tough day.


January 7, 2004

Post 2

tanzen

smiley - cuddle

Sorry you're feeling so down today Ranger...smiley - cheerup

Both of my parents are still alive and very much kicking...I don't know what I'd do if anything happened...smiley - erm

But you know I'm here for you if you need me, dear smiley - cuddle!


January 7, 2004

Post 3

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Thanks, Kristy. smiley - cuddle


January 7, 2004

Post 4

tanzen

That's what I'm here for, you know smiley - smooch!


January 7, 2004

Post 5

Black-Eyed Girl... Sometimes the only sane answer to an insane world is insanity!

Hi hun,

So sorry mate!

smiley - cuddle

smiley - love Will


January 7, 2004

Post 6

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Thanks, Will smiley - cuddle


January 7, 2004

Post 7

Al Johnston

smiley - hugsmiley - rose

Sorry to hear about that.

One for the debate on using mobile phones in cars I suppose...

Hope the rest of the days get easier, anyway.

smiley - devilsmiley - pirate


January 7, 2004

Post 8

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Thanks, AD. That's a valid point about cells, I'm afraid smiley - erm


January 7, 2004

Post 9

Evangeline

Hi,
I hope this helps a bit...smiley - hug
Remember the good things about your mom. It helps to take out some of the sting of grief.
smiley - rose


January 7, 2004

Post 10

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Thanks, Evangeline. Good advice, just hard to remember sometimes.


January 7, 2004

Post 11

Evangeline

Would you like to tell us about your mother?
smiley - smiley


January 7, 2004

Post 12

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


She was a good woman, a stay-at-home mom. Since I was younger than my sibs by several years, I had her to myself a lot of the time. We had great fun together. Picnics in the park, trips to the zoo... never anything expensive (we didn't have any money) but good times! smiley - smiley

Unfortunately, death wasn't quick or easy for her.


That's about all I can say right now, or I'm gonna have another real rough night smiley - erm It does help to remember the positives, though.



January 7, 2004

Post 13

Evangeline

smiley - cuddle
She sounds great. Just think of the positives...if you try to avoid thinking about it altogether, negatives tend to creep in.


January 7, 2004

Post 14

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Yeah, avoiding it doesn't work. I think part of why this year is so hard is because her death and my wrist problems are tied together. Makes it feel like I've never really moved on, somehow.

Which probably makes no sense at all to anyone but me smiley - erm


January 7, 2004

Post 15

Evangeline

It makes sense. There are several connections of that sort in my past as well. My father died around Easter(1986)...so spring became more sad that renewing for several years.


January 7, 2004

Post 16

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


smiley - cuddlesmiley - rose

Yeah, I associate Mom's death with the holidays, and Dad's (oddly enough) with meteors. He died in August 2000, during the Perseid meteor showers, which I've watched since I was a kid.



I'm off the next couple of days, and I'm thinking I may just pamper myself. Catch a movie, get a massage, just relax. Might do the attitude a world of good.


January 7, 2004

Post 17

Al Johnston

Sounds like a smart move, go for it.

smiley - devilsmiley - pirate


January 7, 2004

Post 18

Evangeline

I might be alone in this, but it always seemed that whenever an anniversary such as this rolled around it was always a sad ocassion until we purposefully made a happy memory instead of remembering the details of such a sad day. That sort of made it a lot more possible to celebrate the life they had lived, what they contributed to our lives, and their birthday instead of emphasizing the loss so much.
smiley - hug


January 7, 2004

Post 19

rangerjustice (formerly warrior ranger)


Dad's anniversary will be here in August. Maybe I need to plan ahead of time for something good on that day, rather than just ignoring it until it blindsides me!


January 7, 2004

Post 20

Evangeline

How are you, feeling any better?
smiley - hug

Plan ahead a little bit, just don't obssess. Something simple like arranging to call or web chat with siblings for an hour or two if you can't all be in the same place. Perhaps even a few of the family's traditions such as a favorite holiday food or some such.


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