h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I noticed your "...through with boys...". Another 'speed bump' on the road of romance?

More like total exhaustion, jazz. My friend D has vanished for good. I met somebody I really liked, and although he clearly fancies me, I'm not interesting enough to follow it up by simply responding to my e-mails. (Or maybe I'm too old. Or too interesting. Or too far away. At any rate, not "it"). And since it seems to be a recurring trend, I'm giving up boys and men and concentrating on my writing.

I really wish I could meet somebody with whom it was effortless, but I seem to be attracted to the wrong sort of people. (Plus, with my height, even finding a physically compatible guy is tough.) I'm tired and only wish I would stop hurting.

Maybe if I swear off men, it will happen.

Aww , just get into the writing *sigh* & give it some time Greta...I know what you mean, alotta shorter guys out there(& I'm one of 'em - only 5'6). It'll happen when you're not looking for someone, y'know, unexpectedly...or so I've heard.

Yeah, everybody says that, but I don't think people ever stop looking. Last time I did, I didn't pay any attention to the signs because I REALLY wasn't looking, and I didn't want to see what there was to see. Which got me in my present state: desperately in love with my ex best friend.

And I meant to say (was just in a bit of a rush earlier), don't be too hard on yourself, you're a statuesque, talented, vibrant woman (& I'mm sure, as that friend said, you're beautiful when you smile...I suspect otherwise, too). So, just hang in there girl!

Thats true, you can miss the obvious, if you're too wrapped up in 'not looking'...so I guess it's one of those delicate balance things. Really hope it works out for you, ok.

Thank you jazz, I really appreciate that. It's a bit disconcerting the way I never seem to get things right - even when I'm sure that somebody really likes me, they won't follow it through, and it makes me feel like I'm not worth it and inadequate, and obviously doing something wrong. I think I've tried everything - I've tried trying, and NOT trying, and sort of trying but not quite, but nothing's worked. Now one of my exes is running circles around me, for reasons I do not understand. People say it's for the sex. I hate that. I hate being seen as some sort of sex doll that people just want to sleep with and forget. I'm also tired of being a "force to be reckoned with", because that also implies fear and danger, and really, I'm not dangerous.

I wish I could just be a person, and be loved for what I have to give... not avoided because of it.

I missed that earlier Greta! No, thats not good, just being thought of sexually, you're obviously worth so much more.

Some guy has to see that...hopefully soon, right. Sincerely wishing you the best of luck, ok.

Hey, thanks

Leaving in ten minutes for an emergency trip to fair Verona... my boss was supposed to drive there with me, but has got the flu, so I'm going alone.

Bit worried.

Why's that?

Obviously just missed you, hope it is/was a safe & uneventful trip

Oh yeah, three hours by train, rather uneventful meeting with bank boss, back on the train with coworker, straight to bed...

Still, beats sitting in the office all day. I'm a bit down today. Oppressive weather and disappointing love life do not a very good combination make...

Something I thought you might want to know Greta, I had just welcomed a newbie awhile ago, who's a self-proclaimed "writer of poor fiction", living in the U.S. Her User #'s U226359 .

How've you been the last while?

I'm well, actually. My problem has solved itself by disappearing altogether, which is, all in all, very god. I'm sorry the friendship collapsed and died, but we were quite obviously unable to handle each other's feelings. (He was especially clumsy with mine, it must be said.)

I'm currently enjoying my friends and meeting new ones. I'm spending a lot of quality time with myself and with my online mates, particularly one of them... we talk a lot a lot a lot at all times... I think it'll soon come to the point where we'll have to meet in person. I'd love to see what he looks like.

If anything, he keeps me good company.

How about you? What do you do apart from listening to music and cooking?

Not terribly much, at least not much exciting...seeing a mate Fri. to shoot some pool...spent awhile on the phone last night with another mate.

I don't know about you, but at this time in my life my friends and immediate family are a treasure. I'm not one for Hallmark moments, to be honest, and when I'm grumpy I'm just grumpy. But there is nothing like being single and not plagued by love problems to make you appreciate the affection of people around you. I love going out, seeing the people I know and meeting new ones. I've started hanging out with people on the music scene again, which I love because we share the same interests. I've started going out on my own too, which I hadn't done in years.

Emotionally speaking, it's a very good moment. I feel loved and appreciated, and I appreciate myself. The work situation needs improving, but I'm working on that one...

Thats good, I'm kind of the same way...except that maybe I value my privacy too much, I've gotten to be too much of a 'homebody', you know? But summer's coming, so that may change/improve a bit.

I'm a bit pi**ed off today. It seems I'm better off being an imaginary friend. A few days ago I sent this guy I met online my pic... until then he had been very communicative and wanted to talk to me all the time. The moment he saw me, the magic was gone and he's hardly written since.

I can't win, can I? I really can't.

Aw I don't know what it is, with some guys!

*sigh* Bit depressed today.

Is there something else? Or, do you want to talk about it?