h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I have indeed been gone for a while - let's just say I've not treated myself very well so far this year. Except for the buying of the house. Something made me log on to see if anything was happening and I saw your note. You have been officially winked at.

Ah - I found the thread.

It is said that honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness are indispensible to a thorough application of the 12 Steps in a person's life. Ironically, after some time clean, members of those fellowships adamantly declare that the 12 Steps are the only way to quit and grow as a person. What happened to open-mindedness?

All I want for everyone is that they not experience self-loathing and not create additional pain for themselves. Whatever you need to achieve that is really none of my business as long as you're not hurting me. I hope you are ever closer to your own peace and that you never have to walk your path alone.

Good to hear from you

But I'm sad to learn that you haven't been treating yourself well. Do you need an 'ear' (eyes) and some response? (mail: [email protected]).

"All I want for everyone is that they not experience self-loathing and not create additional pain for themselves. Whatever you need to achieve that is really none of my business as long as you're not hurting me. I hope you are ever closer to your own peace and that you never have to walk your path alone".

You *do* cut to the centre and inspire courage and hope

Wow. I never thought anyone would ever say about me that I inspire courage or hope. I'm sure if you knew me you'd see how often I fall short of my hopes for myself.

I appreciate the offer of an ear - I am blessed with a couple of people I can share with that are close by and a community of friends online that are truly some of the best friends I've ever had. This spring I decided I would build an incredible fantasy out of my flirtatious relationship with a friend a couple of states away and when he didn't want to make the fantasy real, I ended up with both a broken heart and a broken friendship. Most of it was my own doing and I knew there were pretty good odds that it would end the way it did. These are the lengths I will go to sometimes for a few moments of relief from my feelings - but I have gotten better!

Well, it isn't difficult to fall short of hopes for oneself. And then it is good to be blessed with close friends. I'm happy for you. I have myself recieved support from an unexpected friend and I have learned to ask for and accept help - (well, some of the time at least )

It is a gift then, and according to me a sign of inner strenght, tolerance and understanding, that you in spite of what you see as your own shortcomings still are able to inspire me with hope and courage. I'll like to repeat that I find your descriptions and empathy very profound (in the thread 'My experience, strengh and hope').

I know what it is like to build an incredible fantasy - and I ended up like you did. Also chalking it up to my own fault.

There are different ways to tackle that and get on with your life:

There is your own: "grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

And there is Lighthousegirl's favorite saying:

"Love like you have never been hurt, work like you don't need the money and dance like no one is watching."


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