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Extra-marital affairs
Sutz Started conversation Oct 1, 2000
Hi Muse. Have to unload and since you're the most qualified will dump on you (hope you don't mind)!!
Had an affair this past Summer but at the time it didn't feel like it - felt like the "real thing" which was why my/our conscience(s) were clear but it turned out to be an affair and my wife and I are reconciled which I found (still find) fairly amazing because I was so sure we were heading for the big D.
Feel guilty about letting "the other person" down but she seems to have picked up where she left off and is enjoying life.
What I need to know (and here comes into play my Christian upbringing) what do I need to do to atone for the hurt I brought to these two people as well as other family members and friends? Have done some things but what, if anything, really needs to be done?
Thank you for your time.
Extra-marital affairs
soeasilyamused, or sea Posted Oct 7, 2000
perhaps i should introduce myself. i am sea, muse of extralegal and extramarital affairs.
being just a regular person, and not a psychiatrist/psychologist/counselor type, i have no idea what you should do. what do YOU think is right? obviously since you have reconciled with your wife, you intend to stay with her. as long as you're not intending to pursue both women... i don't think there is really anything you can do. we can't change the past, but we can learn from it. 
concentrate instead on making sure your marriage works this time around. and enjoy your life. you only get one.
good luck, my friend.
Extra-marital affairs
The Caffeine Kid Posted Oct 8, 2000
Sound advice...
You made mistakes, sure, but console yourself with the thought that partially it was bacause you were in the wrong place (ie. ICQ) at the wrong time (ie. After she got some bad news).
I know that probably doesn't help, but you have the rest of your life ahead of you, and history is technically to be learnt from - unless you are me... Live and learn, or in my case, life and don't.
Take care.
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Sutz Posted Oct 15, 2000
sea, thanks for taking the time to reply. Cool words....thanks xxx.
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Sutz Posted Oct 15, 2000
sea, thanks for taking the time to reply. Cool words....thanks xxx.
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