h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I am dreading my approaching 40 birthday as it is a stage point in my life. I feel that I have wasted my life and I have nothing to show for it. I am in a rut and it seems that life is fast passing me by. I have not a boy friend for the past 14 years. I have not even been actively looking for a boyfriend for the past 12 years. I have not been chatted up. I am not feeling sorry for myself or exaggerating. It is very hard for someone who is in their twenties to understand the frustrations of being forty. They say life begins at 40 well not for me. Well I am going to give up looking for a boyfriend as it is too much bother and it seems like it is totally futile for me to try do so. I should have got used to being without a boyfriend by now. Well I seem to be one of lifes losers when it comes to male relationships. I have more chance of winning the Reader's Digest Jackpot than obtaining a boyfriend.

Good Morning Jedi Girl.
How are today, Im fine thanks.
Ive just read your postting on Life Begins At Forty.
I don't think you should'nt put your self down as you might find someone one day Heres a nice Hot & for you. There is someone out there for everyone.
Friends are like stars,
You can't always see them,
But they are always there.
Have a nice day chat to you soon.
Takecare
Michael.

Thanks Dragonheart for your very kind words. I am feeling very depressed at the moment.

At 40 years of age men are either in relationships are not interested. So my options are very limited as I get older.

Some of us would like to be in relationships with our so-called other halves.
There comes a time when you wonder what it's all about, but being nominally together isn't everything.
Remember that you can be lonely in a crowded room.
Whatever you choose to do, enjoy and celebrate [or celebate!] it
Life's not a rehearsal

ahh babe don't be sweetie take it from me will hit u one day like a bolt from the blue when u least xpect it. ur time will come and u'll wonder wh@'s hit u, i hope he's very special and takes care of u. take it from me it will happen t.c. liz

<ok Thank you HarpoNotMarx and Liz.

you know, you really won't meet anyone on the net. it is probably the worst place to look!

what you could do is spruce yourself up and head to the local pub.
or try somewhere different. get a group of friends together and drag them out to town. there are so many people in your situation who don't take this option and it is the most simplest and successful of them all

so don't give up, get mean and mean business. hide yourself a little, make yourself a little mysterious, wear black(most men like that trust me)
gucci rush is a really nice feminine scent and loose hair rather than tied up is visually pleasing.

you say you already have a nice curvy body so no problems there.

now go knock em dead, the weekend is nearly here!

creachy

p.s. remember to be

Thanks Creachy but going to pub to make friends is not a good idea as people where I live go to the pub with friends. I have done all what you have said. I cannot afford any expensive perfume as I am on benefit and no-one has ever bought me expensive perfume as a present for me. I have gone to the pub but as I said everyone is their little groups. I have made alot of effort in my appearance but it was a wasted effort. Any who would come up and talk to me in a pub would be drunk men, annoying me. As a full-time carer I do not have a social life and I have not got any out side friends or social life. I have been to further edcuation courses etc but have not been chatted up by male participants. I do not have that many options for social outlets to go to.

i think you have to stop looking. try and become content with yourself first. you have given up which is a negative action. all problems must be faced with a positive attitude.
take comfort in your friends for now. forget Mr Right and come to terms with your own persona. everything else just falls into place when you are at ease in the mind.
don't let your 40th scare you or depress you. that is a downward path. what will you be like when you turn sixty? and that is still 2 decades away so you have plenty of life to live yet.

creachy

p.s. and always wear sunscreen!

Thanks Creachy but I have not been looking for a boyfriend for the past 12 years and none has come yet. I have only started to look for one in the past two ways. It seems if I do not look for a boyfriend none comes along and I do look for a boyfriend none comes along. I am in a no win situation.

all the more reason to be happy in yourself.
you are your own best friend i hear them say

creachy

Thanks Creachy

creachy

ha well better get set in for the flase teeth and the wrinkle cream lmao im only joking oh well at least now ur hitting the big 40 you will have a lot of knolwedge at least that is a advantage

Kyle

Kat

yo Kat only Bryan,Sandra And Marc know this but since you are feeling down i will share it....erm here goes (because im not a child like sandra lmao)

okay here goes see Kat i think your quite nice and you sound like a really cool person and if i knew you in like real life im sure i would flirt with you....Erm..admitted my crush now (may never show her face in the bar again)

Life begins at forty!!!

You mean to say that I missed my moment???

Dang! This is always happening to me.

Well, NOW what?

azahar

(very happily 46 1/4 years old)

ps

and how can you say you are giving up looking for a boyfriend when you also say you haven't been actively looking for one for 12 years?

I also don't have a boyfriend, btw, but I have cats (but then again, don't allllll spinster hags???)

HI Again
you don't want to get your self to stressed out as you never know whats round the corner for you.
Heres a nice cool for you so keep your chin up & keep smiling. There are plenty
of chaps thats not in a relationship & are looking for the right one. you never know someone might pick Your never to my dear.
Michael.

Gemma Thank you for very kind words and no I am not embarressed as I am bi-sexual as well.