h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Haven't posted in ages, I know. Two blogs, e-mail, a new message board, social life, gym, work... OK, no excuse but still.

The soap opera that is my life goes on.

For the first time in absolutely YEARS I'm not in love or lusting after anyone. And I'm starting to recognise the urge, the little triggers that are set off by the mere sight of an interesting specimen of the male kind.

I realise I have always been in love, whether happily (not much) or unhappily (most of the time), and that I somehow need the feeling to keep me going. It's very hard to stop. Giving up "boys", as usually call them (and they usually are) is a tougher call than I thought it would be, because at the end of the day I still daydream of having love. Or maybe it's just my hormones kicking in, and what I really need is sexual contact, which I have been raised to believe must only take place in the context of a romantic relationship.

I am not in love, but that doesn't mean there isn't anyone I like right now. I haven't quite worked out if the interest is reciprocated or not (bad); there is more than one person (good); one would be just for the sex (neutral...); they live close by (good); we have friends in common, so I have to be cautious (good).

Any thoughts? (Apart from "sh*g both guys and be done with it...")

Hi Greta, It really is great to hear from you again, so your not in love or lust just now well just go with the flow of living and enjoy BTW Greta, I have linked a heap more poems to my page at the BTM if you want a read, along with some stories, any way Im glad you popped in to see us all, I missed you and your thoughts that you shared with us all here
Smudger.

I am slowly learning to live without love or any kind of relationship. Oh boy it takes time! I guess a year or two and I am doing just fine. If I'll keep on this way, that is. But somehow it seems important to me atm. I need to know I am doing fine alone, that could make me more secure in a relationship. My shrink said I am relationship-addicted.

Hi Greta, hi Hati,

I am 100% the wrong person to give any sort of advice on this sort of thing, since I am almost certainly a walking example of "relationship addiction"!

BUT: if even the smallest push came to shove, I would dump the shrink in favour of the relationship & not vice-versa!

If we can TRY to be self-sufficient, yet remain open to the possiblity of // etc; that's about all that should be expected of any human in my book.

Bon chance & all that!

Terri.

Well, I won't move on *the smallest* push anymore. I don't feel that desperate. But I was not a long time ago. And I lived in quite bad relationships.

Yeah, so have I. Bad ones are definitely worse than having none at all; but the possiblity of finding a good one remains such a lovely prospect, I seem to never give up hope.

Not desperate either though; that is a state that is not only very sad; but makes the likelihood of finding a "good'un" remote!



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The less desperate you are,the more likely that you`ll meet someone .

I'm not desperate, but a little impatient, maybe.

I try not to let it show, though.

Hi Greta! Its good to have you back with us again, dump the shrinkyou dont need him, you got us!! aint nothing happening to you that at least one of us has been through Things will change, believe me, I was 40 when I met Mk2 up until then I was just going through the motions of a marriage
Smudger.

What shrink? *scratches head* I'm not seeing the shrink anymore, but when I did it was good for me. Therapy has done wonders to improve my life and self-image, actually.

as for my love life, I've given up... sort of... it like I've got into this pattern of not being even remotely attracted to the ones who fancy me, and end up fancying the pants off those who don't. Ridiculous.

That was how I went thru life until I was 26 or so.

That sounds like a normal life.

Update.

Guy I was interested in has a girlfriend.
My mood was a bit off for a couple of days but I got over it.
Guy no. 2 MUST be taking the p*ss, no other explanation for his declarations of love, since we haven't seen each other in eons. I hate it when they do that.

My blog is doing well and I have plenty of visitors.

I've started hanging out with a new circle of friends, and I'm having lots of fun with them.

To be completely honest, I think I need a snog.

Hi Greta, Well Im glad youve made new friends, who knows what may come of that So what about this one who expesses all these feelings then? is he on the up & up/ or just working himself
Smudger.

Good to hear fr. you Greta,! Glad to hear you`ve new friends~ it`s not that easy to make them. to hear of your yearnings.DO NOT get desperate-then,you`ll be like a guy (shudder),not us!

Ciao Smudger... I do think that this guy is taking the mickey. It annoys me, but I think I'll sit it out until we bump into each other again. I take exception with people using "I love you" to mean "I'd REALLY REALLY like to sleep with you" or worse, just jokingly. It annoys me. It really does.

No snog yet. None in sight for the weekend *sigh*

Hi Greta, Lets hope you find your "snog" before the weekends out Why dont you just tell this bloke that he is annoying you You never know it might just put him on the spot! Better still, wind him up and see how long he plays
Smudger.

Dropping in to say hi Greta!

Ciao Lady

Smudger, I don't really know what my policy will be. I kind of fancy this kid (younger than me, but never mind), probably only because he's in a band (hey, we've all got our weaknesses), but I'm not prepared to drag it on and on just in case he's really just taking the mickey. I draw the line at being ridiculed. I guess I will have to wait until his friend's band plays at a local festival, turn up and see what happens.

One month to go *sigh* and no way we'll just casually bump into each other. Different cities at all times.

Hi Greta, Isnt it strange how things work out, for example, in a year from now you might be in a long term stable relatioship, and have other kind of problems, say financial, medical or domestic, and you will look back and say, yeh that wasnt so bad? Its true! we all go through the same obstacle course in life, some come out better or quicker than others, and some, just dont makeit. Oh! what am I gibbering like this for Its just that there is someone out there for you, so, go get em!!and let us know how you got on
Smudger.