h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I have a problem which I will now divulge to you all in the hope that someone will tell me what to do.
I am currently in a relationship with a girl who i like very much, but I am in love with another girl. Now, I don't want to split up with the girl I am with, we shall call her Number 1, and I don't want a relationship with the other girl, we shall call her Number 2.
My problem, besides being torn in half, is whether to get Number 2 a Valentine's card. Bear in mind that Number 2 has a boyfriend and I have gotten her a gift in the past. Number 1 does know about Number 2 and how I feel about her, and I dont think she would mind.
So..do I get her a card or not? Would it count as me being unfaithful to Number 1?

That aside, the other reason for this post was to show that Valentine's day isn't all fun even if you are in a relationship.

Hmmm... Been there.. Done that got the T-Shirt.
I did not send anything as even though number 1 says she wouldnt mind- she really does, and will take it personally. In my case - number 1 was good friends with number 2, and number 2 was single. The funny thing is, I have split up with number 1 in august last year, and me and number 2 are still "just good friends".... So maybe now is the time to send her something. Especially as she keeps saying stuff like "I feel like Bridgette Jones".

It would not count as being unfaithful- but I can guarantee that she will always be wary of you and girl 2, and she will end up disliking her big time. as number 2is in a relationship herself - I would be much more careful. If she was single, and the feeling was obviously reciprocated - then it would be time to consider that maybe girl 1 was not the right choice. Things are so difficult on the matter of love. Assume nothing.
I am now single, and was looking forward to an uncomplicated V.day- but now my number 2 has turned up and is around a lot like since dec. Complicates things big time. I was looking forward to playing Half-Life all night in protest to V.Day- Lots of Slaughtering of other singleton males.

Are you SURE #1 doesn't mind Cap'n Hack???

I suspect she does really, but is not confident enough to object.

You are disrespecting #1, and if you send a Valentine to ##2, even a funny one, she will still be hurt.

When you say you are "in love" with #2, I really think you should change the wording to "lust".
You are in lust with #2.
#1 is your love, as you'll find out if she gets fed up with you and leaves.
Believe me, if you had your freedom, you'd probably have a fling with #2, but then you'd start stalking #1 and begging her forgiveness.

Love the one you are with....

Got to agree with the Galaxy Babe here my friend.

I think it is a testament to no. 1's devotion that she know' about no. 2 and says she doesn't mind. I guarantee you that not only is it going to hurt no.1 if you send no. 2 a valentine, but that it is tearing at her heart even now.

Us guys can be pretty blind to these things especially if we get verbal approval to something that our selfish nature is leaning toward. And we do know that it is a fact that sometimes a lady will not share exactly what she is feeling to us in a matter where she would like us to think about it for ourself and really take some care as to what she may be feeling. She is not deliberately deceiving us, she is helping us to learn.

Simply put, how would you feel in the same situation? If no.1 said 'I like you, but I really love someone else..' wouldn't you be inclined to tell her to go forth and multiply. If you really love someone else, then be fair to no.1 and give her the opportunity to be with someone that really will be loving and devoted to her. Or do that yourself, and drop the infatuation. A very wise man told me just last night that there rarely exists true confusion. More often it is just a difficult decision that we just don't want to make.

Love is something that happens but we oftern forget that it is a choice aswell, and that's what gets us through those days when we just don't feel romantic. Sorry to ramble...

F-Reek out

in fact, i dont lust after number 2, i truly love her, thats the strange thing.
but i suspect that number 1 may be uneasy about it, so ill take your advice and stick with what i have. after all, its not every day someone comes along who likes ya
oh, and i too hope to be slaughtering a few people on v night, however, methinx this may take some planning..

There's an old saying.
Don't marry what you can live with, marry what you can't live without.

I know marriage is the furthest thing on your mind - but believe me, the principal still applies.

I was married once & I've been single now 16 years, since the divorce.
If I got the chance now, I'd marry again, but it would have to be someone I couldn't live without.

Love is rare, fleeting.
When it's gone...

My parents have been married for over 60 years and they're still in love.
I want a love like that!

Good luck everyone, I hope you find what you're looking for.