h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Today it has been an entire year since my mother died. It happened in the early morning on the 14th February, 2011. I cannot believe it's been so long! I've been living on my own all this time, I don't know how I made it, and it still feels as if all of it has been a sort of a 'limbo' ... my life doesn't really feel real. But anyways, I survived this far.

I knew the date had to be close when you wrote your other journal recently.



As far as I can judge it, you did exceedingly well.

I think that's all we are doing, here on this lonely planet surrounding a lonely sun. Surviving, and sharing.

Tomorrow will be a year since my dad's death, too.

Thanks, GB. That's such a good thought.

for you, too, Dmitri.

Willem and Dmitri, I am thinking of you both

lil xx

Thanks, ladies.

Sending wishes to both Willem and Dmitri, anniversaries are bitter sweet, you remember the loved ones who you have lost and you miss them dearly.

and you Dmitri

The first year is definitely the hardest. The pain of parting is still raw, and it's difficult to think of the lost person without remembering the pain of parting. But as time goes on, you do start to recall the good times and then the pain changes to longing, almost without noticing it. I am 5 years on from losing my Dad. I still hear his voice when I look at his photo and imagine he sends me shooting stars from where he is to where I am.

I like the thought of the shooting stars.

Sometimes the timing is uncanny, I can't explain it any other way. My sister swears he sends her rainbows - it's a good way to cope with loss.

Thinking of you all here, with the pain and aloneness of loss, yet strange beauty of shared experience.

cc

Wille, I know exactly what you mean about life not feeling real. I too feel as if I am in limbo, waiting for something to happen, yet I know it won't. It is a very strange feeling.

We have all survived, you, me, Galaxy Babe, Dmitri and many more on h2g2 who have lost loved ones in the recent past.

All we can do is take one day at a time and count our blessings. There are still people who have had no-one close, no-one to lose, and no good memories to store for the future. We are the lucky ones.

Take care everyone. Valentine's Day has been one for remembering both absent loved ones and those still with us.



Websailor

Hello folks, and thanks for all your messages. Dmitri, all the best to you too ... I am *very* grateful for having had my parents as long as I have, and for them having been such wonderful people. It's just ... having loved them so much and us having been so close for so many years ... I am having difficulty existing on my own, it is as if the most important part of me has been taken away. I am trying to take one day at a time ... but still, after a year of taking one day at a time ... it still feels as if I'm drifting in space, with no lifeline connecting me to anything. Anyways ... I'll keep on taking it one day at a time.

I hear you, Willem. I've been on 'one day at a time' for a while now, too.