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PostMuse Posted May 31, 2000
I think the being loved by them is the most problematic, though.
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The Honest Courtesan Posted May 31, 2000
That is interesting - I would have said the other. Why do you think that?
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PostMuse Posted May 31, 2000
Because if I love and the love is not reciprocal, then I can move on and find healing in my own way. If I am loved and it is not reciprocal, I run the risk of hurting someone I may care deeply for and that is a miserable position. But I am not one to make claims for understanding the complexities of love. It leaves me breathless and listless all at the same time.
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The Honest Courtesan Posted May 31, 2000
I know what you mean. For a long time I have felt that self protection is the most important thing for me. It is a long time since I have truly been in love with someone. I loved people but not it that heart stopping way.
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BluesSlider Posted May 31, 2000
An interesting viewpoint Z, but if the people who love you love with the same attitude as you they will deal with it if it is not reciprocated. That's not to say it doesn't hurt, believe me, but love can not be conditional on being loved.
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PostMuse Posted May 31, 2000
I had to read BluesSlider's response a few times then go back to what I wrote to make sure I answer properly.
I don't mean love is conditional on being loved. I mean that it is more of a problem when someone loves you since if they love you with the expectation of being loved, then you end up either living a lie, or hurting them. I would much rather love and accept the pain of not being loved, than the other way around. Now I have confused myself (this is why I always shied away from philosophy).
In a perfect relationship there would be equal love and loving going out, in and around. But perfection is too predictable.
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BluesSlider Posted May 31, 2000
Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you were implying that love should be conditional on being loved. Quite the opposite, I agree that if you love, it is your problem to deal with if that love is not reciprocated. But again, it is not your responsibility if you are loved but do not feel able to reciprocate, at best you may be able to let the lover down gently, but it is their responsibility to deal with it.
BTW, sorry HC, this is a long way from recommending an interesting excercise routine but it is the sort of thing that happens all the time here on H2G2
Oooh, I just noticed, I'm apologising to everybody...Sorry .
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Dr E Vibenstein (You know it is, it really is.) Posted Oct 19, 2002
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