h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

You're right those two words are dreaded in any relationship. But I really don't understand why.
You see when I tell someone that I would like to be just friends I mean just that. I don't want to get
romantically involved with you because I don't think that we are compatible in that catagory but that
does not mean that we are not compatible as friends. As in If you are not doing anything on a
Friday nite and neither am I why can't we go out and discuss what we did last week or how bad
our families upset us. Or even about who did what at work.
My favorite thing to in a situation where I tell some one lets just be friends, is immediately
following that phrase I tell them that I would like to hold a party in their honor, I will invite
all my friends, they can invite all their friends and we can see how many of them will get
along and possibly we will both find that one person that makes our head spin.

Regretably, when someone says that dreaded phrase they end up not seeing that person
ever again. I think that is a shame because even though they may not be romantically
compatible one if not both of them could benefit from having the other as friend. I learn more
everyday from my friends than I have ever learned anywhere else. My friends tell me when
I am too overbearing, or when I am acting like a baby, one of my friends (who just
happened to be someone I dated a few times) told me that the guy I was going out with was a
real jerk and it turns out he was rite, so I was glad for the advanced warning. Each of my
friends has something different to offer me. I am thankful that I have them as friends,
and I will have you know that the majority of them are men I have dated and at sometime
one of us has said that dreaded phase to the other but when we said it we meant it.

so you see that dreaded phrase is not so dreaded for me or my friends and should not
be dreaded by other people, If you mean it when you
say it, it will produce some astonshing results.