h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I have been dating a married man for four months. It has been great! I have traveled with him, stayed at his home in Chicago, Florida, and spend time at his condo in Florida as well. He gives me money, takes me shopping, we have lunch and wonderful conversations. We have become the best of friends, talk on the phone all the time, text and email.... sounds great huh?

Well I happen to know his password in his private email. Yesterday I see he had an email from a woman just saying "hi" and today he emailed her his photo. She weighs 300lbs, is also married and in to any type of sex. What the hell is he doing looking for someone else when he has me? And the sex we have? OMG it is fantastic, it's been fun to find even fun places... dressing rooms. I don't get it. It really hurts and not only that... yesterday after an afternoon of sex he looked me straight in the eye and said in no way would be interested in someone else since he has me. Liar. He is giving me money for rent on Monday and I am thinking of leaving after that but I am so fond of him. I am now obsessed with checking his email looking for her response to his photo and perhaps arranging a meeting.

I allowed myself to become his frind as well as his lover and now I am so hurt. Is it an ego boost to older men? He's 62, to have women after him? He's not the best looking, but to me he is and his personality is great. He has a ton of cash which makes no difference to me but it would certainly attract women. Why he would want someone else? and at 300lbs... I look great! Help!! I'm so hurt and don't know what to do, my obsession with finding out when/where he will cheat on me is debilitating me. Toni

What did you expect, that he would be faithful to you? He is'nt faithfull to his wife, so why should you be treated any different? You now have an insight into how his wife would feel if she found out about you.
Why don't you find someone single and available, instead of stealing another womans husband.

Obviously I am not breaking up his home since he is wanting someone else. I HAVE been dating A LOT and have not found someone. I know it's wrong and I will have to end it, I am just hurt, my ego bruised and admittedly surprised since he JUST told me he did not need anyone else but me. I know, a cheater is always a cheater... it just hurts so much it's almost unbearable.

I meet this man in 2006 in the internet. We will be Happy and fun together . and we have nice and beautiful relationship until now. Him and I are not leaving I live far away from his place. 1 hour drive. I come down to South to see him every weekend. since 2006 until 2009 . Then finally I found last 2008 Feb. he got married I ask Him . did u get married? he siad " NO" .....huh! But i found the marrieges contract and the wedding ring.. last March 2008 .So, we still continue my feelings towards him. because i found that we are comfortable each other. and love each other. I dont understands why I still have this man. even He is married already... Until now , hes wife she si coming soon to live with him. He is sponsoring her to come to this country ... But i dont underatnds myself Why I am still here..give me more advice and open talk to to me..

he does not give a damn about you or this other women or his wife. he's a chauvanist pig and knows how to press the right buttons. You are just obsessed. You will get over it honestly. Just think of what else he could be doing that you dont know about. You can't trust him and without trust there is no relationship. Get out and save your sanity (raid his wallet first!!) good luck