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torontonianeh

I've been checking out the pages on death looking for the answer to a particular question but I couldn't see it. I wonder if anyone can help me. My father recently died in a nursing home. We were called by the staff to say that he was near death and of course we went to the home immediately. When I arrived, he had a slightly waxy appearance, his eyes were open and I honestly couldn't tell if he was breathing or not. My brother was there and told me a personal care worker was just in the room and said Dad's breathing was shallow but he was still alive. About 30 minutes later, she returned and said, "He's gone" but I couldn't see any difference except he was slightly more waxy in appearance. I cannot stop wondering if he was already dead when I got there. The PCW just touched him and pronounced him "gone" so what was the difference? I had spoken to him and touched him and I honestly couldn't say whether he was dead or not.

My question is, how soon after death does the body assume this waxy look? Or, does it begin before death?

Sorry, told you it was morbid. It's Sunday morning in Toronto, cool, bright and we still have snow.


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Andy

you might be better served asking here A148907 its the ask h2g2 there are a lot more people go there and im sure some one can answer your question good look smiley - smiley


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Post 3

Andy

or even luck smiley - drunk


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Post 4

torontonianeh

This whole phenomenon of reading instructions is quite interesting. Sorry about that! Now perhaps I can stop the damn VCR from flashing 12:00. :[


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Andy

smiley - laughno problem i have left you a message on your space with handy links smiley - ok


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

Hello and welcome to h2g2!

If you have a look at your Message Centre on your User Space (about a third of the way down) you'll find I've left you your official welcome to h2g2 smiley - smiley I'm an <./>ACE</.> (Assistant Community Editor) and I'm here to help new researchers get on their feet so if I can help you with anything at all just give me a shout smiley - ok


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Andy

thats it its now official you cant escape smiley - laugh fords wont let you go (she is ruthless like that)im only kidding shes smiley - cool

hope to see you about h2g2 smiley - bubblysmiley - bubbly


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

smiley - evilgrin


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Post 9

Andy

smiley - biggrin

oo by the way i have e-mailed jimster about my last invite to the Aces smiley - biggrin


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

Good good! smiley - biggrin But mind and run that ACE greeting through a spellchecker first though smiley - winkeye


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Andy

yep will do if i can fid it smiley - laugh im sure buttons and applications move on this thing smiley - biggrin


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

F7 should do the trick in most word processing programs smiley - biggrin


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Post 13

Andy

nah ill find or just do it by hand smiley - laugh

so hows you today


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

Very tired and hungry - think I'll wander along to the chocolate machine in a minute smiley - drool And you?


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Post 15

Andy

yeh tired my self just haveing a smiley - coffeebefore bed

smiley - laughyou at work uni


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

What timezone is Yorkshire in? smiley - silly


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Post 17

Andy

its now 10:20 am why where are you ?????


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fords - number 1 all over heaven

Grangemouth. I'm just confused that you're going to bed now - do you work night shift?


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Andy

smiley - laughhey you and me bothsmiley - rofl

yeh i do i like the idea of yorkshire in a different time zone the bermuda shires smiley - laugh


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