h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

Went to family reunion event in Kansas. Saw lots of cousins I don't remember but am sure my mother would have if she'd been there. Got home and had message from friend who babysat rehearsals while I was out. One married actress and one single actor did something in the off hours which made them both uncomfortable during rehearsals. When will they learn? Also had message and later phone call from mom. She didn't know my brother and I were going to the reunion and was worried she's a bad mother. She is, but I didn't bother saying anything one way or the other. It will all end up my fault anyway.

There's a lot going on here sounds like an intriguing weekend all round.

Firstly, it's good to keep in touch with family, although i'm an awful exponent of it myself, there always seems to be too little time.

I'm afraid that 'Making the beast with two backs' as Othello puts it is a natural consequence of men and women being together.In answer to your question 'when will they learn?',.....never. Hormones are a devestating piece of evolution, and try as we might to be civilised and self restrained, when mother nature sets off those fireworks we're all helpless.

Mothers are put on earth to make us feel guilty, it is their 'raison d'etre'.They know, as all parents know, that they have made mistakes while raising their family, so in a pre-emtive strike, they try to make the children think it was in some way their own fault.

In the defence of mothers though i am reminded of a line from a Mike and the Mechanics song.....

Every generation blames the one before, when all their trials and tribulations come knocking at their door

But as this was written about his father.....perhaps the analogy isn't perfect

I've just realised that i have been serious for 4 paragraphs, this is a personal best

The end result of whatever they did is that they will be awkward around each other during rehearsals and performances. I hate to have that happen regardless of how inevitible it was that they get together.

She really wasn't a good mother and I wish she would quit trying to absolve herself of any guilt by pushing it onto me. Oh well. I guess that's the plight of daughters.

Thanks for the insights.

I never know wether you are being sincere, or mocking, so it's either or ...........


If it helps at all, my mother gives my sister grief on every decision she has ever made, and very rarely gives her any praise or encouragement. It's almost as if she resents the fact my sister has refused to make the same mistakes as she did


I really do believe that the underlying cause of their animosity is my mothers jealousy of my sister.

I was being sincere. I really am capable of it. So, thanks for the .

That could be part of it. I'm not sure. I survived the experience and like to pretend I'm at least relatively well-adjusted. () She just has a habit of bringing up things that I think need to stay in the past. She had her chance and should let it go. That's easier said than done though.

Wow. That's me serious for once.

Looking back always brings out the serious side in me too, as it wasn't a happy time generally.My parents were a fantastic advert for the divorce law, unfortunately it took them 17 years to make the right move. Open warfare for that long is a painful business for all involved.

I always remind myself that i didn't have the disaster that some people do, but we're all a product of our upbringing.And i can trace some of my less desirable traits back to my early life.

Still, what the hell eh......let's have another drink, and congratulate ourselves on turning out as well as we did despite everyone else.

Mine too. It only took them 22 years.

And I know I didn't have things as bad as a lot of people, but it still affects how I live my life. I'm the same way - bad habits/characteristics have their roots in my upbringing.

A drink sounds lovely at this point.

Thanks for listening.

all round then.


It's amazing that we've been chatting for the best part of two months (you are my oldest Hootoo buddy by the way )and this crops up after a post like yours.


I didn't inherit my listening skills from either parent, the last thing in the world they wanted to do was listen

I know it. You just never know where a conversation will lead.

What personality blips do you think you've aquired through your up-bringing the Emee?

* Develops a Herbert Lom style tic, and downs a bottle of vodka in one *

I think i escaped unimpaired

I know that I try to isolate myself. Defense mechanism from all the moving, I think. Don't get too close since you'll never see them again sort of thing. I'm also really good at finding pushy women to be friends with ones who somehow resemble my mother in personality. Then I wonder why, after a time, they get on my nerves. And I'm not very trusting.

That all sounds pretty understandable to me, stay distant and avoid all the emotional grief.I wish i had learned that defence mechanism, instead i overcompensated, and ended up trusting blindly. I really wanted everybody to my friend, so would give them even more leeway, despite their obvious failings.

As you can imagine, my past is littered with disasterous relationships, and break.

But i have emerged as the level headed individual you see before you

Level headed in this instance means i dribble from both side of the mouth at the same time

Isolation would be lovely if a person didn't actually need other people. As a defense mechanism it doesn't really work all that well.

Well i may only be a cyber pal Emee, but you've always got me.

That sounds a bit lame really, i know that's not what you meant, but my intentions are good

Thanks. Having people to talk to is the main thing.

Off to bed in a while Emee, so have a great weekend, look forward to a chat next week.

If there are any more 'goings on' please try and find out all you can, it's the detail that counts

Night night

Didn't end up clothes shopping. Had to find silk flowers for an arrangement to be used in the show. Think I'm going to have to get rid of the assistant stage manager. She turned off the monitor in the green room. So, the actors couldn't hear when they were being called to the stage. Then she sent a stage crew member home early without checking with me first. She acted as if she knew nothing of it when I confronted her about it. *sigh*

I'm going to the in a few minutes. I have a sinus infection. All the dust & mold in the rehearsal space combined with the lack of sleep finally got to me.

Sounds to me like this assistant is challenging your authority Emee, she's a lot braver than me. I'm sure you're more than capable of putting her in her place, or showwing her the door.

Bigfor the ness, probabally due to tiredness as much as anything, it sounds like you really are putting a lot of effort into this production. Airscotia prescribes plenty of , and a nice relaxing night in with a good movie.

If you are allergic to dust and mold i'll remember never to open my wallet while you're around.

I think we'll get it worked out. Or I hope we will. If not, she can leave & I'll find someone else. The producer offered to do it.

Thanks for the and here's a for you. Since I started on this show, I've been asked to work two others for groups not affiliated with the company I usually work for. So, I think the hard work is worth it and paying off. A would be lovely. Can't have one just yet though. It doesn't mix well with my meds. I'll have one after though.

Have a meeting with my previous manager today. I'm going to tell him about the job I interviewed for in revenue. They've offered me the job so now I have to fill out all the paperwork online. Once I do, my manager, who doesn't know what I work on at all (I promise it isn't just h2g2) will get an email. I want someone in management on my side & I think the former mgr will be. Feeling nervous about it.

Hope your day goes well. How was the weekend of working?

Was a dull weekend in the main, til the brakes on my lorry caught fire yesterday, that livened it up a little.Soon had the flames under control however, and am now enjoying two days off..

You seem to be making great progress in your second career Emee, i guess the aim is for it to become your only career.I can see your name in lights on Broadway now;

'Directed by Emee'

Have you never fancied being up front and starring, or is it the power that draws you