OK. So you have a fella or(hey, lets not discriminate) a girl -- and when you got together it seemed that this time you had it right ... at last . All the right chemistry was there from the very start, the same things in common, the same sense of humour and the sex is wooonderful. Before you knew what happened, you were thinking this might be the one ... or so you thought.

But now it's gone pear shaped and you can't put your finger on it, but something's not right. It's a thought that creeps through your skull, tapping on your mind, whispering; "what are they up to?". Hey, well done, you pulled your self a romantic liar.

Further along in the relationship (if you're stupid enough to continue)that constant tapping at your skull is beginning to get to you. You're starting to get a little emotional and touchy. Chances are you're waging a one-man battle to keep your own sanity; the contradictions and inconsistencies are more than you can take. Has she/he been seeing some one else? Do you dare ask? What if you loose them and it was all in your mind?

The Romantic Liar isn't the man/women who tells a little white lie now and then to keep you happy, for example "No darling, course your bum don't look big in that" or "of course your better looking than they are", also it isn't the person who adds an embellishment here or there to make a good impression on you when you first meet. Omissions and enhancements like that technically constitute lying, but they don't qualify as Romantic lying. As you'll soon learn, Romantic Deception is far more.

If you are unfortunate enough to be a victim of a master in the art of Romantic Deception then my heart bleeds for you. They know what to do and exactly how to do it. When a Romantic Liar is operating in top form, you'll probably be living in blissful ignorance. He may be telling a number of lies e.g he's with some one else, he's a pizza delivery boy not a lawyer (but he has been in court a number of times), he's 17 not 26.

As a rule, a liar is limited only by his imagination and the immediate circumstances.

They are capable of lying about anything and everything imaginable, there's no limit to the ways a Romantic Liar can harm you. You can lose substantial amounts of money to a Romantic Liar, and you might lose your job and friends because of them. But the worse part is the emotional or physical consequences. Even if you're a self-assured, intelligent, and resourceful kinda person, you'll probably end up with a real low sense of ..well ... every thing.

If you find out your other half is a liar but you find out early enough to make a swift exit then it may be that you've already got a little emotionally attached. If that's the case, you'll probably find yourself having to deal with a hefty amount of emotional damage. The aftermath of Romantic Deception is a fairly predictable emotional nightmare.

You'll probably go through a gut-wrenching experience when you try to untangle your feelings and understand why you let it happen. At some point, you'll be hit with a profound sense of loss over a relationship you thought was meaningful. Sleepless nights, depression. Weight loss, weight gain, anger, and resentment, substance abuse or casual sex. The sense of loss will grow even more painful and mucked up when you begin to realize that who or what you were in love with didn't really exist in the first place. Some times the worst thing is seeking the help of friends that you dropped along the way, do they think you're an idiot and probably deserved the enlightenment any way?

Of course, not every one who tries his hand at this kind of deception gets away with it. Every day thousands of attached people try to pass themselves off as being single, and even more try to make out they're some thing they're not (tha pizza delivering lawyer syndrome). It's good to know that many of these fail. These people may have the bravado to attempt their hand at Romantic Deception, but they lack the necessary skills to really pull it off.

If you think the only lies that count are the verbal diarrhea kind, you're in for a rude awakening. Some actually say very little, but misrepresent a lot. The clever liars are the ones that are quite content to let you draw your own conclusions.

Apart from getting with someone you've known for most of your life, there's no such thing as a fail-safe way to meet a potential partner. A Romantic Liar can get into your life from any angle, some settings are obviously more open to deceit than others. Chat rooms on the Internet, and singles bars are obvious examples of where you're likely to encounter a Romantic B.Ser. But you can also meet a Romantic Liar at work, church, or through a friend who's just as clueless as you are about their true character. More than one person has ended up with a creep as a result of a blind date that was set up by a well-intentioned but completley love-blind good friend.

A Romantic Liar's ability to forge a deceptive relationship is his story telling skills. Whether he/she's lying about their marital status or occupation or anything else, for that matter. It's the ability to tell a plausible story in a believable fashion that gives birth to a deceptive relationship. Many people mistakenly assume that a deceptive tale always has a fundamental element of implausibility or unbelievability and that there has to be something wrong with a person who would fall for such a story to begin with. Nothing could be farther from the truth.

The Romantic Liar is out there and, if a master, can enchant any one.