How to plan a Wake
Created | Updated Apr 11, 2014
How to organise a Wake. This is a depressing topic but everyone at some point will have to do it and usually when you are in no condition to think straight. First of all if you really care and love the deceased do not let someone else do the Funeral especially if you where asked to because at the time although it seems easer and to tell you the truth it is. But later on you will feel guilty that you did not do what you where asked or that you had no input at all.
Now a lot of the time all you will be thinking about is how much you miss the deceased and how much of a tragedy it is that they have died but try to forget that, it wont be easy but try to forget that you are unhappy and concentrate on how much they achieved in there life. Unfortunately lots of funerals have one thing In common non of them have had the theme of it is all very sad that he/she is dead but lets see what they did in their life lets celebrate the good things they did and how they made us feel. Lets celebrate the achievements and basically everything that made this person wonderful and lets put our loss and grief away for later. You have the rest of your life to feel sorry that your friend or relative has died but you only have this one chance to say to the world Look how great she was and I was privileged to know her.
This is going to seem very inappropriate but do it any way at the wake make sure that instead of the usual thing that happens that the gests go off in their own little groups and talk in quiet voices, no one wants to laugh or show any enjoyment of any kind because everyone else will glare at them, try to get people to enjoy them selves. Give your friend massive party with good food dancing what ever you want but give people something, which they can look back on and say I enjoyed that and I said good by to my friend when I was happy. If at all possible theme the party to things that they enjoyed while they where alive. If they where a fan of football have every one in football kits or have a competition for the kids something that reflects the persons personality.
Another important aspect is clothing. Now people where black, as a sign of respect but it would be better to have people where the favourite colour of the deceased. At least let people where comfortable clothes instead of suits so that they are not thinking in the back of their mind when is this thing going to end so I can get out of this suite because as I am sure you will know they are not the most comfortable things to where.
The most important thing to remember when planning a funeral is try to make sure that the deceased would like it after all you are doing it for them as much as to give your self and others a chance to say good bye.
Now a lot of the time all you will be thinking about is how much you miss the deceased and how much of a tragedy it is that they have died but try to forget that, it wont be easy but try to forget that you are unhappy and concentrate on how much they achieved in there life. Unfortunately lots of funerals have one thing In common non of them have had the theme of it is all very sad that he/she is dead but lets see what they did in their life lets celebrate the good things they did and how they made us feel. Lets celebrate the achievements and basically everything that made this person wonderful and lets put our loss and grief away for later. You have the rest of your life to feel sorry that your friend or relative has died but you only have this one chance to say to the world Look how great she was and I was privileged to know her.
This is going to seem very inappropriate but do it any way at the wake make sure that instead of the usual thing that happens that the gests go off in their own little groups and talk in quiet voices, no one wants to laugh or show any enjoyment of any kind because everyone else will glare at them, try to get people to enjoy them selves. Give your friend massive party with good food dancing what ever you want but give people something, which they can look back on and say I enjoyed that and I said good by to my friend when I was happy. If at all possible theme the party to things that they enjoyed while they where alive. If they where a fan of football have every one in football kits or have a competition for the kids something that reflects the persons personality.
Another important aspect is clothing. Now people where black, as a sign of respect but it would be better to have people where the favourite colour of the deceased. At least let people where comfortable clothes instead of suits so that they are not thinking in the back of their mind when is this thing going to end so I can get out of this suite because as I am sure you will know they are not the most comfortable things to where.
The most important thing to remember when planning a funeral is try to make sure that the deceased would like it after all you are doing it for them as much as to give your self and others a chance to say good bye.
