Aspies often have either a narrow focus or a serious issue with


stimulation or trains of thought that border on revealing anything

that may be going on. Inappropriate honesty can be a problem.

Now, in an intimate situation involving the lack of clothing

and a need for heavy breathing on the part or parts of at least

two people (in my case, me and a member of the opposite sex),

a certain amount of focus, honesty, stimulation and awareness

are needed.

I have rarely had problems with this, although, when I do,

it is a memorable occasion.


So, once we have progressed past the weirdness factor and

moved on to more intense intimacy,

I don't have a problem with proximity.

Just the opposite. I get clingy.


I still have a problem with "give us a kiss".

I don't know why. It just bothers me.

If a kiss is called for, I think the situation should indicate

it. A generic need for affirmation that I will kiss a person,

well, I think that is a control issue.

Besides, I'd like options on the location.


I have a problem with "casual sex".

While I have learned to use the handshake in situations

that call for that, usually of a non-intimate nature involving males,

I still haven't plumbed that part of the female psyche

that views intimacy in the same manner.


I also still haven't figured out why when I exhaust myself

physically and mentally trying to please someone, it's

okay for them to just lay there and then thank me and go

to the loo, expecting me to have shifted down to a less

intense level of expectation when they return.


And has anyone solved the problem of the "fourth elbow"?