h2g2 The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: Earth Edition

I think there is a big difference and what makes you 'get off' on something. But how to qalify that, I do not know?!

(a side note to Z) -- Medline probably isn't the most efficient place to search for articles on something like this. Do you have access to the PsycInfo database? It had a decent amount of overlap with Medline, but also covers far more psychology, psychiatry, and social work type journals.


Mikey

I am so brainwashed I've seen psych info, it's on my list of searchable databases on my athens account, I've only ever used medline... But it's 3am here I have just got in and am slightly drunk. Amazingly my typing seems to have improved.

I've always felt that we are inproportionately attracted to proscribed practises.

Thus oral sex has always been something I have enjoyed, possibly because as a young man it was considered something 'nice' girls didn't do.

I also had a girlfriend who only truely enjoyed sex if it was likely she would be caught. It was exhilerating going out with, but very wearing for someone as shy as myself.

That Mckay makes a lot of sense. It would explain why the fetishs in the gay community are a lot more prevelent in people who in their late 20s early 30s. Perhaps after coming out, (nowadays most commonly in the late teens) it takes some time for normal gay sex to stop being taboo and exciting.

I wonder what the future is for fetishes? as more and more things become acceptable.

(Please excuse me for not reading the backlog as the previous page was blocked by the firewalls on this system.)

Sex as well as all the other pusposes it serves is also the most intimate form of social interaction. It must be hard to get a clear picture of what really goes on and what really goes on because of all the (IMHO) odd religious and social rules about what people can and cant do. These rules not only impact on peoples actions but more importantly on what they are prepared to admit to.

Im sure we all know people who cant shout loud enough about their "kinks", but there are some people who will only confide in someone they trust and those who keep secret forever what really floats their boat. Maybe the fact that its a secret is part of the turn on?

The prime example is the Prince Albert. Now he used it Im lead to believe as away of retaining modesty whereas peopple I know who have them show it to anyone who cares to have a look.

My point is that we assume a lot about sexual desire based on good information, statistics, psychiatric case studies, our own observations etc...but we may only be seeing the tip of the iceberg because for the most part we dont know what really goes on in bedrooms, public toiltes and in peoples minds.